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| Wed, 03-02-2005 - 11:34pm |
Hi I posted this on another board (hope it is not against the rules, I wasn't getting an answer.) Anyway it has been 3 years since my "true love" left. I have dated and stuff but you can only get that kind of relationship once in a lifetime. Anyway I miss him, still. I see his friends and parents, and i ask how he is doing, but I don't really get anything besides, "Good." I guess to make this sad pathetic story short, I was wondering if I should call him or write him to see if he wants to talk. I think it sounds a little crazy, but I guess since i can't stop thinking of him, it must have meant something, (right?) And if i should contact him what the heck should i say?

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Cher, ask great questions and with no response I will say you think of him he is a first love and of course you will think of him. Heck, over 10 yrs later I still think of my first love. He was that but when it was over it was over for a reason. I posted this http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlmrright/?msg=4393.1
Thanks for hearing me out! I would love to know what you think.
Thank you for your advice, I read it and it makes sense. It seems to fit perfectly with a lot of my relationships (even friends). When you think of your first love, do you usually feel like you left something unsaid? How do you feel when you think about him?
Thanks again for that message, i shared it with a few people. Did you write it?
I just wanted to say, first loves are the hardest to get over. I know it took me over 10 years to truly let him go and to stop thinking the "what if's". As marie stated, there's a lot of unanswered questions, and all you remember is the good.
I don't know what to suggest. I think over the 10 year span, I called my TL about 3 times to talk about what happened with us. I just kept telling him I can't seem to just let it go, and he'd talk to me about it. I'm not sure what finally helped, but the last time around, something clicked. Not sure what though.
I would say, call him, but with NO intent on getting him back, and ask if you two can talk about the breakup because you truly feel like things were never "ended" and it's haunting you.
If he says no, then well, there's your answer, he's an ass. If he says yes, hopefully you can get some closure.
BTW, are you sure he didn't accidently knock someone up or something? i know my friend had that happen. her TL dumped her out of the blue, and then she found out YEARS LATER that he got someone preggo and left her. He said it was an accident to cheat, and he felt so guilty cuz he truly lvoed her, and he didnt' want to hurt her, so he dumped her, left the area to be with the mom of the kid. of course, it killed her to know he cheated even years later, but still, it was an answer for what happened.
Hugs.
Do whatever you feel comfy with. Also, who knows what happened. I mean, I know my friend married this woman cuz she was preggo, after dating her for a month, and then she miscarried. They're now divorced.
Good luck. Keep us posted.
Hugs and good luck.
A few things. Do NOT assume NOR allow him talk you into "going out on
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