cant figure him out

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Registered: 06-22-2009
cant figure him out
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Mon, 02-15-2010 - 1:52am

me and my b/f have been together for 9 years, he broke up with me last summer, saying i was treating him bad and he couldnt deal with it anymore. we were seperated for 2 weeks and i was absoultly heartbroken, in those 2 weeks i realized that i did treat him bad somedays by accusing him of cheating on me. well for a week and a half he didnt talk to me, didnt answer his phone and he came and got all of his stuff.


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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 2:35am

>> i mean what did i do wrong we didnt even have a fight or anything.<<

Ummmm actually you DID have a fight or something. You said "the other night i got upset with him so i just went to bed and didnt talk to him". Hon, the things which were said and done that evening were the trigger for him breaking up with you.

And just to be clear, he would have been on full alert for your bad behaviour after your previous accusations of him cheating.

Now, whether or not you had a right to be mad at him is a different question....but from *his* point of view, you're too much hard work. He's tired of you being mad at him.

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Registered: 06-22-2009
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 12:44pm
thanks for advice, you know i understand we had a little fight but to just leave me like that every couple has there fights, and its not like he hasnt treated me bad or he hasnt been in a bad mood before and took it out on me, you dont see me just breaking up with him over it and
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 3:41pm

Thing is, he isn't moving on so fast. Given that he's already left you once, he probably had one foot out the door for a while. And when you've been unsure for such a long time, it can be pretty easy to move on when you finally make the decision.

I know it wasn't a big fight, but for him, it may have been the proverbial straw on the camel's back.

I realise that you've been forgiving of his moods and such...but you are not him. If he doesn't want to put up with certain behaviours from you, he doesn't have to.

Oh, and this isn't a 'man' thing. Women can also move on when they make their minds up.

Let him go and move on. Start fresh with someone new. Good luck.