Christmas Gifts for Guys

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Registered: 10-20-2005
Christmas Gifts for Guys
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 10:56pm

Okay all you girls out there, its been 20 years since I dated. Im stressing big time over what to get for the guy in my life. We have had a very casual relationship from June til October. Over the last 2 months it has moved beyond casual. I need some help with ideas on what to buy him for Christmas that is appropriate!!!

I have to proceed carefully, because he's a little slow moving on the committment issues. I decided jewerly was a real bad choice!!! May say too much and he may panic !! LOL

So all I can come up with is a nice winter jacket, which I know he needs, or a sweater and jeans outfit. He loves to hunt and fish, but I was not sure about a gift certificate to hunting supply store, they dont show much thought to me.

So how about it?? Help me out!! Need some help here!! When I ask him he says just you! LOL

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 10:53am
Hey flick, for some reason I have been thinking about you and wondering how things have been going? I will tell you what I got my guy and I still hesitant on, which is video poker game. I have one of those guys who has everything he can ever want so this is just horrible. I got him assorted coffee also because he drinks lots of coffee but it was hard because he went Christmas shopping for himself first so left me with little to get then we will shop this Sat. for his family. I'm hoping something catches his eye that I can go back and get but not much for ideas since this is a first for me with a guy I am dating.

Marie

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Registered: 10-20-2005
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 12:31pm

Marie,

Thanks so much for the thought!! Things have been going terrific!!! Ive not had to have that conversation with him about our relationship. Because he made the choice all on his own. He decided that he wanted to be with me and only me. But in the same token, we both decided that we wanted to take it slow and let it build because, really its like a whole new fresh start!! Our times together are wonderful. He stays in touch with me through the day, via phone, text message, instant message. He makes it a point to make me feel secure in this change, by letting me know things, like Im hunting tonight, or the boys and I are xmas shopping call you when I get back!! I think its his way of letting me know that I dont have to worry, and that he's here for me and only me.

I did buy him a nice leather wallet so far, and was thinking Ill get him a nice sweater and jeans. Hes the same way he buys what he needs when he needs it, so its a tough job. And like I said if we are progressing slow I dont want to do anything that may scare him off into one of his shells. Jewelry to him would be like too big !! It would maybe say more than he could handle right now.

Have a great holiday and thanks for the help

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Registered: 04-05-2003
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 4:14pm

I think people dismiss the gift certificate too quickly because it doesn't seem personal. Really, if you get him a gift card to a store you know he likes (not to like something general like Macy's or Target), like a hunting store, then you know he'll get something he really wants and not something you thought maybe, perhaps, possibly he might enjoy.

To make it more personal you could get him an item from the store and a gift card, that way you put some thought into it and, if he hates it, he can trade it in and use the gift card to get something better.

The winter jacket sounds good because its practical and you know he needs one, which means you've been listening to him.

What I often do for my boyfriend is pick out an item (a golf club for instance) and then take him to the store and let him pick out the one he wants, that way I get points for thoughtfulness but he still gets exactly what he wants.

Guys don't care as much about thoughtfulness as women usually do. They'd rather have a cool gift that they want and will use (and then when their buddies say, "Hey, nice fishing pole!" he can say "My awesome girlfriend got it for me" and then you look like the laid back, supportive type to his friends).

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 9:19am

Hi flicksgirl!

First...PG likes your ivillage user name.

Second...most men have no problems with gift certificates from their favorite store(s) simply because a gift certificate provides us with the opportunity to pick out stuff that WE WANT---that you might have absolutely no clue about!

If you're looking for a 3rd idea....and I only say this because it's snowing like crazy in New England today...have you considered the possibility of either preparing a complete home cooked meal or (even better) getting a squadron of your 'white glove cleaning friends' together to give your b/f's "bachelor pad" a good housecleaning after the holidays are over???

As good as I am at scrubbing, dusting, and vacuuming...I know there's a dirt spot or two that I usually miss?

Just another thought...

Pianoguy

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Registered: 12-06-2005
Sat, 12-17-2005 - 1:52am

Okay, I feel dumb! I just replied to one of your other posts asking you for this exact advice!! lol Sorry! I'm no help here! :)

Dani

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Registered: 06-29-2005
Sun, 12-18-2005 - 8:34pm

I was in exactly the same situation last year. Through the summer and fall we were real casual, then things started heating up before the holidays. He was talking about stress at work, so I gave him a gift certificate for a massage. I wanted to give him something personal, but not something that would make him think I am looking for jewelry or raising a dog together. I had heard that gifts that are not permanent reminders of you are the best in this situation, just in case it doesn't work out. The massage was greatly appreciated, and I got to enjoy an evening with a really relaxed, happy man.

Just a thought, it worked for me!