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| Fri, 06-24-2005 - 8:51am |
I met this really great guy and he described the way he feels about me
to the movie 40 Days and 40 Nights.
to the movie 40 Days and 40 Nights.
| Fri, 06-24-2005 - 8:51am |
So this person is just 'thrown' by the fact that the guy didn't put his arm around her?
Well, when you say "really affectionate" what does that mean?
Has he ever kissed you? IF he has and you're ACTUALLY dating and not just hanging out occassionally, then I wouldn't worry too much about him not putting his arm around you.
BUT, if you've never been on a real date where he actually took you out adn he's never kissed you then I would say he likes the attention your giving him, but he's not really all that into you.
Honestly, based on what you've given us ot go by I would say he just likes the attention and isn't into you as anything more then a convenient ego boost. Sorry.
Words are cheap especially, whenthe guy has to use a movie as a refernce point for his feelings. A real man who really liked you would just come out and say he likes you.
It doesn't matter why he used the movie refernece it's lame, not romantic.
Besides,this still just doesn't sound like "REAL" dating to me. It sounds like you're a convenience. You're doing all the work. It's really pretty irrelevant whether you're doing all the work because he's the walking wounded or whether you're doing it because he's not all that into you.
Either way he doesn't sound like the kind of man who is ready for a REAL relationship. Unless you want to be the "mend my broken heart for me" girl.
This has codependency written all over it. He wants to fall in love with you so he can get over his ex. That's just not a good way to start a relationship.
Stop trying to analyze his behavior and look at what really matters, this is not a man who is a whole happy, self-sufficient person. He's looking to use you as a band-aid for his broken heart. Are you really so desperate that you'll settle for lame references to movies from a guy who is still licking his wounds?
Sorry, if this seems harsh, but it's just my honest opinion. You're only a month or so into this, bail now before you get more attached.