Confused

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Registered: 01-12-2006
Confused
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Sun, 02-21-2010 - 4:29pm

So, there’s this guy, and it seems like we’ve been flirting for a long time, but I don’t know if I remember how to read the signals or if maybe I am imagining the signals I think he is sending.

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Registered: 09-23-2009
In reply to: naive2006
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 9:55am

You cannot live your life in fear of rejection and embarrassment. You have let two years of your life pass by that you could have possibly spent with this man if he is, in fact, available and interested in you. Life is full of joy, happiness, frustration, sadness and missed opportunities. You will experience all of these things and cannot protect yourself in a glass bubble.


If you present yourself in confidence and asked him if he was interested in going to the movies, or to dinner, etc. and he was not available because he has a girlfriend, or not interested, then at least he would feel good that someone took that interest in him. If that's the case, just smile and say, "Oh, she's a lucky woman." Yes, your feelings will be hurt or you may be a little embarrassed, but you'll get over it.


In a book I read, which I think was called "The Seven Keys to Happiness,"

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Registered: 11-29-2006
In reply to: naive2006
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 1:10pm

Hi naive and welcome to the board. I wholeheartedly agree with blueorchid's response to you in all respects. Life is too short, in my opinion, to waste time trying to figure out something that could be easily answered by a few well-placed questions of your own. Plus, from what you've posted here, it sounds as though he has been hinting and fishing around to figure out whether you're single, so what's the worst that could happen if you ask him out?


Show You're Interested—Without Appearing Desperate


Top 10 Signs He's Interested in You


How to Ask a Coworker Out

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Registered: 02-22-2010
In reply to: naive2006
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 4:26pm

Hi! I agree. Hey, if he were anyone else and you enjoyed his company, you wouldn't hesitate to ask him to join you for a drink or a movie.... but because you have feelings it makes it that much more intimidating.


Take the chance.... if he's your friend he'll remain so, even if he doesn't want to "date" you. From what you've written I think you'll find he wants to spend time with you as more than just friends.


Good Luck!

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Registered: 01-12-2006
In reply to: naive2006
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 10:19pm

Okay, you girls are great, and I know you’re right, but, but, but….