Confused

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Registered: 05-13-2002
Confused
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Thu, 07-23-2009 - 2:41pm

I met this guy M through a mutual friend L (who is like a sister to me) and he was great....at first.

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Registered: 03-09-2006
In reply to: chloedermas
Thu, 07-23-2009 - 4:53pm
Well, if you really like M,

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Registered: 01-18-2006
In reply to: chloedermas
Fri, 07-24-2009 - 9:02am

Honestly I wouldn't put anymore thought or energy into this guy. He can't step up to the plate, and I'm wondering if he actually has interest. If he had interest in you, he would be chasing you directly. None of this through friends garbage. He hasn't made any move on that part to date you, ask you out, or talk on the phone. Don't communicate through L, and you can tell her that if he has interest, he'll step up to the plate and not talk through her.

So here's my advice. If he contacts you again, and brings up going out or doing something, tell him directly how you feel. You can tell him you got mixed signals from him and brushed him off. It's either he wants to date you or he doesn't and nothing in between. If he can't step up, or makes excuses, brush him off and move on. It's as simple as that.

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Registered: 02-08-2009
In reply to: chloedermas
Sat, 07-25-2009 - 12:42am

I agree; if he was interested in taking her on a real date he would have done so.

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Registered: 07-17-2009
In reply to: chloedermas
Mon, 07-27-2009 - 12:07pm
He just sounds shy to me. I say give him another chance and follow the advice about being direct. But when you're being direct be calm and friendly about it. And ask him if he's ever going to take you out...playfully :)