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|Tue, 12-22-2009 - 12:35pm|
Well, I have posted before about my so called "relationship" but I have a question. My boyfriend and I that have been together for 2 years fight all the time. I mean fight every other day or week, so he said it's best for me that we are just friends and then this would not happen. So now we don't kiss, no sex, no sleepovers, he stopped saying goodnight every night, and good morning every morning as of beginning of December. Well, he will spend time with me, but he tries not to and wants to keep a distance from me and says its because there are too many feelings right now. He said he doesn't know whats going to happen with us, he says lets be friends only and see what happens. Well he is a manager of a retail store so he is busy but he always made some time for me before but of course now I am the one hounding him for time. I ask to see him all the time and he says "we will see", that is his answer when I ask a question about us all the time too. I went to see him on Sunday and brought him lunch to his work and he was ok with it, I got there and he treated me so cold and mean. He was rude and took his lunch and walked away from me. I left and text him when I got home and told him that was rude and mean and I wasn't accepting that anymore. He text me and said sorry and then another text that said this is a busy time for him and I keep pushing for more time. He said I just want you to "backoff" is that so hard.
So, my questions are this. What exactly do you take "backoff" to mean? Does it mean stop contacting me and I will contact you? Does it mean the contact is ok but don't ask for time? Does it mean he wants space? Also, what do you think I should do to fix this? Any opionions or suggestions would be helpful, at this point I am confused on what to do. Thanks.