Confusing & Being In Tune

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Registered: 10-16-2007
Confusing & Being In Tune
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Fri, 08-14-2009 - 3:38pm

So Is It Meant To Be?

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Registered: 04-25-2008
Sat, 08-15-2009 - 6:30am

Since you have not mentioned anything specific i will give a general idea.This happens when there is a strong emotional connection.But sometimes women take this feeling as ' something ' and go with it while the guy has no feeling at all.this ends in disappointment as you were feeling that connection.
Well,for men to feel this connection is very rare.it happens only when it happens with someone who they are really meant to be.These men,imo,do wander for a while and struggle a lot to come to accept the unusual feelings and emotions.they tend to get lost as they havent felt that before.

You have not said if you are a woman or man,i would advice you to go ahead and talk to the person and tell them how much he/she means to you.Sometimes we wait for the right time for too long and forget that life is too short.There is no right or wrong time to tell someone how much they are loved.like they say -- love is all you need.

Sometime ago one of my guy friends died in a car accident, at a young age of 35.He liked a girl but was struggling to tell her.we all joked about him but tried to help him get the guts to go ahead.he tried but just couldnt do it.This time he was all set but as luck would have it,he died before he could do it.That girl will never know how much our friend loved her and he died just keeping it to himself.Its very very sad.Since then, we all friends have learnt to show and tell everyone we love ,how much they are loved.

So if you love someone,tell them when you can.Who knows that person feels the same? they may feel different but you will never know till one of you takes the initiative.

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Registered: 10-16-2007
Sat, 08-15-2009 - 1:01pm

Thank you for your in look on this matter.

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Registered: 04-25-2008
Sat, 08-15-2009 - 1:59pm

" How can one individual be in a relationship for over two years and not one time feel or be this in tune with another individual? " because you guys were not right for each other.you may have been dating,in love , did stuff together,enjoyed each others company but there was something that was not there.always felt as if something was missing?its this deep internal connection.
" How can an individual be so in tune with someone that they have known for a short period of time?" because you guys are right for each other and that 'something' is here in this relationship.

You just have to ask that person out.Start from small talk and rest will follow.If you cant ask out personally, get help from mutual friend.we do this all the time.a good friend who has your best interest and will put your request in the best possible way.My guess is that you are a guy??

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Registered: 10-16-2007
Sun, 08-16-2009 - 2:56pm

Again, I completely agree with you on how someone could date someone for over two years and not be this in tune with someone.