Congratulations Nick!!!!!!!!!!!

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Congratulations Nick!!!!!!!!!!!
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 9:11am
It is no official, so when is the big day?
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 7:45pm
We've known that for a while now: Oct 2nd. Just got the application for the marriage license today. He didn't faint or anyhting. :)
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Thu, 06-23-2005 - 11:40pm
Congrats NIck! Love the advise you give on this board. Where did you say you and the fiance met again. I've got to give that dating website a try :)
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Fri, 06-24-2005 - 8:03am

It's called Lavalife and believe it or not we met through the Intimate Encounters section. Neither of us wanted anything serious, but we did want sex. Low and behold we end up talking marriage within six months, go figure.

I actually met quiet a few nice guys both through there Intimate Encounters side and the Dating side. Though I should warn you, you have to be relatively on your toes about screening who you actually met and do all the things you're supposed to to be safe.

I know a lot of people have trouble with online dating and tell nightmare stories about their dates, I've never really had a horrible experience with it, but I'm pretty good at screening. Here were some of the good lines I used:

1> If he starts using the word "we" on the first or second date, run for the hills.
2> If he isn't within a 30 minute drive don't even chat with him.
3> If he wont met you for coffee or lunch as a first date don't bother.
4> If he hits you with lines like, "I've just never felt this way before.", "I've never been able to talk to anyone like I can with you.", "I just feel like I can be so open with you.", "I feel this amazing connection with you." etc. on the first date or two BAIL.
5> If he tells you he's "not good at dating" or "I'm an a**hole" followed but, "I'm working on it" RUN, RUN, RUN
6> If he strikes you as wanting it too much or being needy, runaway.
7> If he's just in it for the sex, unless of course that's all you're after, get outta there.
8> If for any reason you begin to feel creeped out, leave, but not without saying goodbye. No sense getting on the bad side of a potential stalker.
9> Always be polite but don't feel bad about not returning a phone call especially if the guy you're ignoring was the needy guy. Trust me this is not a conversation you want to have. If the guy seems like he can handle it and your not into him just tell him, "You seem like a great guy but not the right guy for me" and pick up your half of the check.
10> Just remember that often times, things that seem to good to be true are. Don't neccessarily runaway but proceed with caution.
11> If their screen name is cheesy assume they are and don't waste your time. Guys with names like "1foru" or "Romeo seeking Juliet" or have pictures potsed that look like their models are simply not to be trusted. A guy who actually IS a model, unles he's vain and egotistical, is NOT going to put one of his head shots on line.
12> If the guy has his shirt off in his main profile picture, do I even have to say it?

I don't know that you really needed the tips, but I figured I'd add them incase anyone else might, too.

I really do think online dating can be a terrific experience if you go into it with an open mind and you know how to weed out the losers.

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Sat, 06-25-2005 - 1:58am
Nick, thanks for the info on the website and the tips. :)