Crush on me?

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Crush on me?
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Fri, 04-21-2006 - 4:46am

Okay, well first I've never posted in any kind of message board so, I'd like to say hello first of all. And then of course I have a guy dilemna :-)

Well, there's this guy from my class that I've been interested in. I met him in class about 3 months ago when it started and we get along well and have a lot of things in common. I "suspect" that he "might" like me, but I'm one of those ppl who tend to overanalyze things so I kinda don't even trust my own judgement anymore. I mean, he seems excited to talk to me all the time, and laughs at my jokes (even the stupid ones :-P) He is also very um...protective? almost? of me. As in looking out for me I suppose? And he asks me a lot of questions about myself. And I don't know if this means anything but he sometimes will talk low to the point where I have to lean in and nobody else can really hear him.

::Shrugs::

Anyway, I was wondering if he DOES like me, then wouldn't he have, oh I dunno, asked me out already or something? lol He seems a bit shy but still if he likes the girl enough?

Thanks for your responses in advance, and I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense due to my present insomnia lol.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 9:10am
Very hard to say as each guy is different.
In my experience, if someone were interested in me, he usually would atleast ask for my phone number or ask me out for lunch if he were really interested.
I found the ones who didn't but showed interest anyway, usually had girlfriends or weren't as interested in me as I had hoped.
What I've learned also is that a guy can show plenty interest in you but he doesn't necessarily want to go out with you or be your boyfriend. His attention probably means he enjoys seeing and flirting with a pretty girl but nothing more.
Only time can tell with your situation. Many will probably tell you to ask him for lunch or coffee or whatever but I feel if his interest is pretty strong and no matter how shy he may seem, if you're showing your interest as well, all of that won't be necessary because he'd make his interest clear. That is, if he's available and truly interested. You'll find out in time.
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Registered: 04-21-2006
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 1:50pm
I think what you said makes sense. However, I actually haven't been showing interest because I wasn't sure whether HE was interested. This is kinda lame but HOW can you show interest without coming off stalker-ish? lol I'm not good at this type of thing.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 4:04pm
Hi.
I know it's hard when you like someone, but try talking to him. Smile at him when you see him. Say hello and just talk about small things. You know, be friendly and open whenever you see him. Maybe ask how was his weekend and feed off from that.
I think if you're friendly towards him, that should open doors and encourage him to talk to you more. Don't over do it. Just be yourself as if you're talking to one of your brothers or your guy friends.
Always smile.