Dating Advice - Men are like Clothes

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Dating Advice - Men are like Clothes
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Fri, 05-06-2005 - 7:52am

I just had a weird thought, but I think it's a pretty accurate analogy...

Think of guys like clothes, sometimes you try something on in the store and you love but it's pricey but you talk yourself into it. Then you get it home and you wear it out once and or even twice and realize you don't like it as much as you did that day in the store. Sometimes you even let it hang there in the closet becasue you don't want to get rid of it becasue you might wear it again. But the truth is it's just not the same as it was in the store and eventually you give it to Goodwill.

Other times you try it on in the store and immediately hate it and put it on the disguard rack.

Other times you love it and you wear it for years, but then it starts to show it's age and you realize it's time to let it go because it's really not "you" any more.

Other times you find that perfect classic black dress that makes you look and feel great every time you put it on. You always have it dry cleaned. You threaten death to anyone who spills anything on it. You go on a starvation diet to get back into it for a special occassion. It's a keeper.

There aren't going to be many perfect little black dresses in your life and there aren't going to be many perfect guys for you either. You don't beat yourself up when you make a mistake buying a new outfit or when you just realize an outfit isn't "you" any more. Why beat yourself up or bad mouth the guy when he doesn't work out either.

Yeah, I know this kind of takes the emotions out of it, but really why SHOULD we be so emotionally caught up in relationships. Sure it's going to hurt at first because we can't help it, but in the long run it really isn't that much different then finding the perfect black dress. We're going to make mistakes, we're going to have relationships we think are meant to be that turn out not to be. Why should we punish ourselves so much for not getting it right on the first shot?

No one ever does.

Just like you don't find the perfect little black dress the first time you go looking for it.

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Fri, 05-06-2005 - 9:11am
That is true and I do not think it takes the emtional side out it is just reality. treat it as such.
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Fri, 05-06-2005 - 12:16pm

Perfect!!!

Steffy
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Fri, 05-06-2005 - 12:31pm

That was great Nick!!!

For me personally, I can't seem to throw away my beloved pieces, even if they aren't in great shape. Although, I have absolutley no problem throwing away men, for the most part. Maybe it's cuz I could careless about fashion, but LOVE men. lol. Who knows.

BTW, I have never had a perfect black dress, or any outfit.............but I think I may have found one in the other realm. :)

I think I'll forward this on to a friend who will love it.

~pineapple_girl