Dating and Jealousy

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Registered: 06-19-2005
Dating and Jealousy
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Sun, 06-19-2005 - 3:36pm
I've been dating this girl for about a month. She is 19 and I am 20. She also has a one-year old child. Lately I have been getting a little jealous of this guy she has been hanging around. They have started hanging out more and more, they make more contact physically. They also work together. She doesn't call as much and we don't hang out as much. She wants me to be more of an "a$$hole" to her. Unfortunately I usually say the wrong thing and it pisses her off but I don't want to be an "a$$hole". I guess this guy has the personality to fill that void. But as far as other traits go; he's unattractive, not good with children, and has some bad habits. In some cases I can't provide he "little things" like dancing and wrestling with her b/c I'm in a wheelchair. I'm sure this is part of it. I don't want to her to leave me for this guy just b/c his personality is more appealing to her than mine. I want to mean more to her than a personality. I'm just so confused and unsure of myself it's eating
me alive. Any advice would be appreciated.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2003
Mon, 06-20-2005 - 1:15am
Hi there, I'd first ask about where you both stand...are you a couple and dating exclusively? A month is a short time to be exclusive though. Are you hanging out OR are dating seriously? Those are questions you should ask and depending on the answer then you'll know what to say. If you're hanging out then he sees you as a friend only but if you're both dating seriously I'd state my concerns regarding what worries me. Good luck.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 06-20-2005 - 2:08pm
Yes, very important questions and easiest way to go from there.
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