Deal Breakers ...
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|Mon, 01-11-2010 - 1:21pm|
Last night, I had a conversation with my boyfriend (we are both in our 30's. both divorced. He has kids, I don't) - and we were talking about people we have dated - and I said - How do you know when it isn't right and he said FOUR THINGS, that I found very interesting!!! He said
(1) If she is a partier and likes to stay out until 1 or 2 in the morning. If she is a "bar fly." Then he knows she isn't the right one.
(2) If she isn't a church-goer. If she isn't a Christian or Mormon or Catholic or ... someone who believes in God in someway - then he knows she isn't right.
(3) If she doesn't like to exercise or be active - skiing, kayaking, swimming - if she isn't into fitness, she isn't the right one. and
(4) If she doesn't like to cook - or at least enjoy cooking at home - and show some INTEREST in cooking!
I think I am good on ALL of these - I'm really pretty domestic, I'm a serious girl, currently a student, definitely NOT a partier - but I'm not a very good COOK! HA! Although I *do* make an effort, and I *am* interested!!! So I think I'm good on all 4 counts. I actually LIKE that he is so traditional. I ESPECIALLY like that he isn't a Partier. Because my Ex-husband NEVER grew out of that - and in fact - is basically a full-blown alcoholic at this point. He LIVES to party - and he is 35 years OLD!!! It's like ... grow up MAN! My new boyfriend has kids - and I think it's really wonderful because the world doesn't revolve around HIM - he makes big sacrifices for his kids. I like his level of maturity. He's an honest man and a good father.
It just makes me think about MY deal-breakers. I think mine are basically the same as his! My ex-husband was TERRIBLE with money - so I think that would be a deal-breaker too for me - someone who can't manage money. Of course, my new guy takes it a little too far to the OTHER extreme - he's a bit TOO stingy, in my opinion - but I do believe I'd rather have THAT to deal with, than a party-guy who blows all his money on gadgets and on gambling.
I have more to write - but I need to run-off! He and I have been together for OVER 6 months now, and I really think something BIG happens at 6 months, you know. A shift. I have more to write on that - but I'll check in later!
What are YOUR deal-breakers???