did we meet again at the wrong time?
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| Tue, 03-21-2006 - 9:56pm |
this is a little long so bear with me please, i could really use some opinions. i met this guy when i was 12. that was 15 yrs ago. we went to middle school and high school together. we were friends, but not that close. but from the time i met him, i was crazy about him. i had a "crush" from 7th to 12th grade. i mean i had other boyfriends, but in the back of my mind, i always knew there was something about him. we never dated in high school and after graduation we both stayed in the same town but never really saw each other very much. i thought about him now and then and always wondered how he was doing. when i was 24 i got married to a guy i met in college. when i was 25 we got divorced. (i am now 26)
a couple of months ago i ran into my high school "crush" for the first time in years. i had heard a few weeks prior to that, that he and his long-term girlfriend had broken up. we started talking alot. mostly on the phone at first. then we started to hang out. alot. i knew from the beginning it was going to have to be a slow process given that he had just broken up with his girlfriend about a month before we saw each other and he hadn't had much time in between whereas i had more than a year to get over my marriage. but we started seeing each other more and more, talking every day several times a day and we probably saw each other 3-4 times a week. i actually started to realize i had feelings that were more than just "high school crush" feelings. well, last week we had a long talk and we decided to slow things down a little because he felt himself putting it into "relationship mode" (his words) and he just isn't ready. and that's totally fine. i know exactly where he is coming from, being that i've been in his position. we still talk, just not quite as often. and i really care about him alot. i know he likes me, but i'm not sure whether i should stick it out and see what happens and just be patient, or just walk away before i get more attatched. i was talking with a friend the other day who told me to just be patient because since we've known each other for so long and we both ended long-term serious relationships and since i've always known there was something about him that was special... that maybe this is what was supposed to happen. but did we meet again too soon after his break-up?

kjs9206...
Pianoguy thinks the timing between you was definitely WRONG! Your "high school crush" still was having thoughts about the lady he was with...along with the breakup!
Take a break from him for at least 3 weeks (a month or more would actually be better)...and then check in to see how he's doing?
His attention and interest for you---could possibly have improved by then?
Best wishes and warm thoughts...
Pianoguy