Discussing the future
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|Fri, 04-24-2009 - 1:29am|
Just looking for some unbiased opinions. Here's the background: my bf and I have been together for a year and a half. I'm 29 and he's 37. We're both professionally employed and live alone. We typically spend the weekend together and see each other one evening per week. We talk on the phone a couple of times each day that we're not together.
Here's my problem: neither of us talks about our relationship. It's been established that we're exclusive, and we regularly make plans for vacations a few months in advance...but we've never discussed any possibility of moving in together, marriage, or kids. We've both communicated that's what we both want in life, but we've never said anything about those plans with regards to the two of us. I don't want to come across as the needy gf who always wants to talk about where things are going, so I've been waiting for him to bring it up.
Recently my bf has started to look for new couches. His definitely need to be replaced. I know he likes my couches, because he's told me several times. Maybe it's silly of me, but him wanting to buy new couches would seem to indicate that he sees no future to our relationship. Wouldn't he hold off on the couches if he hoped we'd move in together sometime relatively soon? Am I just over-reacting? How do I bring up the conversation?