Divorce confusion

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Divorce confusion
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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 1:11pm
I've been married for 5 years. I understand that all relationships have ups and downs, but my relationship have had alot more downs than ups. About six months ago my husband started to turn around and do things he is suppose to do. At the same time, my feeling for him have changed, I no longer want to be with him. I started withdrawing from him, and about three months later I told him that I wasn't happy and that I wanted a divorce. Several times he have tried to get me in trouble with my job, several times he have tried to blackmail me. Since I told him that I want a divorce he have been kissing but big time. 75% of me want to head for the door and 25% of me want to stay. We have two kids together, but I don't want to stay in this relationship just for the kids sake. My heart is saying stay, but my mind is telling me to leave. Please help!
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Registered: 05-04-2005
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 11:30pm

I guess my big quesiton is, WHY do you want to leave, and WHY do you want to stay? What would keep you there? Would you be willing to try marriage counseling? What reasons do you have for leaving?

I don't personally think children are a reason to stay married, however, if they are in the pciture, I think you owe it to them to do what you can to save the marriage first, IF it's salvagable.

I would love to hear your responses before posting any advice.

~pineapple_girl