Do I stand a chance ?

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Registered: 06-21-2005
Do I stand a chance ?
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 3:10pm
I started dating a guy 3 months ago but then his ex-girlfriend (they have 2 kids) got jealous and wanted him back. We essentially stopped dating, but stayed in touch throughout this turmoil. The ex has since decided that things won't work out betweem them and she doesn't want him back . He calls me every evening to chat and we see each other once a week and are always intimate. I feel that he does like me and enjoy my company, but he seems to be confused and scared to get involved again. I have very deep feelings for him and would give anything for this to work. Should I wait it out and see what happens and hopefully time will give him confidence and change his mind
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Registered: 02-25-2005
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 4:41pm
It is your choice to make. However, I would be very careful about getting involved with a man that has already dumped me once for someone else. You will always feel like second best and that is a hard pill to swallow. Plus, were you two to get together the jealous GF will always be in the picture as a reminder because they have children together.
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Registered: 06-21-2005
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 4:50pm

Hi
Thanks for that. In a way I know that you are right, but he is such a lovely person and we get along so well, its hard to just give him up. I know that if the ex wasn't in the picture we would have an awesome relationship.

Its just so hard to give him up. I wish I had a crystal ball so I could see into the future !

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Registered: 05-04-2005
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 5:23pm

Hugs. Regardless if he went back for the kids, the fact that he's unsure, and the fact that he went back....I know for me, I couldn't go back to him. He made a choice, and he chose her.

"I wish I had a crystal ball so I could see into the future !"

Do you really? What if a psychic told you this man is not the one for you? Could you just move on? What if a psychic said he is the one for you, but you won't get him until after much heartache? Would you relaly want to know the future?

I said I did, and I was told my future, too bad, it never once involved my bf. Another man, yes, clearly so. But not my bf. Kinda hurt like hell hearing that.

~pineapple_girl

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Registered: 02-25-2005
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 7:23pm
There are alot of nice guys out there. Ones that would pick you first, given a choice. Ones that aren't on the rebound and emotionally damaged. Look for them and let this one heal from the wounds his last relationship left him with.