do I wait or move on?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2006
do I wait or move on?
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Fri, 01-13-2006 - 3:15pm
Hi, I need some advise so please feel free to give your advice as sometimes other peoples advice brings up points that other people don't see. Back in the beginning of Nov. I met this wonder guy on the internet and we just clicked right from the start. With in a few days we started talking on the phone. Over the last few months we have really gotten to know each other really well, as he says from the inside out. We talked about each of our past marriages, past relationships, how we have been both hurt in the past. We had seen each other a few times at first and then one night he had unexpectedly stayed the night with me which was wonderful and so exciting to me. So since then we have spent the night with each other about 5 times or so. It all seemed to being so good. And then one afternoon which we had spent together there seemed to be something bothering him which I offerd to be suppotive and listen to what was on his mind and he said that there was a lot going on for him right now. So that night I decided to send him and e-mail and I revealed all of my true feelings for him and stated that I loved him. Well now here is my problem he says that he is happy with me and wants to continue seeing me and spending time with me in all ways. He also said he still wants to spend nights with me however he wants to slow things down and take it one step at a time. I truley feel that he is my sould mate and I have longed and seached for many years for a man like him. So do I try and keep my feelings to myself instead of sharing them with him? (However I'm willing to share my feeling on here. LOL) And just play the wait and see game or do i just cut my loses now? Please help as I'm so confussed.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-07-2004
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 3:40pm

I am completely lost. This guy says he likes you, wants to keep seeing you, and take things nice and slow, and you're wondering if you should cut your losses? Did I miss something? It sounds like you're trying to make a problem where there is none. Do you wait or move on? Move on from what? A nice guy who likes you?

"he says that he is happy with me and wants to continue seeing me and spending time with me in all ways."

Oh you're right, what a creap! How dare he NOT freak out that you said you loved him and become all distant and weirded out. (can you detect the sarcasm?)