Do you believe in love at first sight?

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Registered: 03-13-2013
Do you believe in love at first sight?
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Fri, 03-29-2013 - 1:57am

My friend and I were having a friendly debate over this question last night. She believes in that whole "I knew he was the one/it was meant to be/going to marry him someday when I first saw him" kind of feeling. I do not. I think it's ridiculous. How on earth could you possibly KNOW all these long-term feelings when your first meet someone?!? Chemistry at first sight, sure. But true love? No.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 03-29-2013 - 4:17pm

I am with you on this--at first sight, it's only infatuation.  No one can know "he's the one" until you get to know the person.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Sun, 03-31-2013 - 3:28am

For some people, including myself, it really doesn't take much time. Before meeting my wife, who lived far away from me, we shared a number of essay questions about how we lived, what we want from life, etc. Then, I essentially proposed to her the first weekend we were together. We wed in a matter of weeks!!! We have now been happily married for 6 years!!!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2013
Sun, 03-31-2013 - 7:49pm

I think you may feel a strong chemistry at first, but I feel that love is something that develops over a long period of time

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Registered: 03-13-2013
Fri, 04-05-2013 - 2:09pm

Trenner, wow! Proposed on the first weekend and now married for 6 years?! Well, I think you may have helped proved my friend's side of the arguement a bit more.

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Registered: 03-27-2013
Fri, 04-12-2013 - 1:40pm

Totally agree with "chemistry at first sight, yes. true love, no".

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Registered: 02-08-2011
Sat, 04-13-2013 - 9:25am

Yeah, for every rare story of got-married-fast-and-are-happy, there are too many stories of people who reacted too fast to what they thought they had as "love", but ended up in a bad disaster. It's about as random as the won-the-lottery-after-buying one ticket stories. You hear about that one person, as if it happens all the time, but never hear about the millions who bought a ticket and never won.