do you know what could have happened?

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Registered: 05-11-2004
do you know what could have happened?
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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 2:38pm
I met up with an old boyfriend from 15 years ago. We had been talking for about 5 months and he came to see me. Everything was great. He talked about how beautiful I was and that he loved everything about me. We really hit it off. We talked everyday for a month sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. He was coming back to see me. One and 1/2 weeks before he was planning to come my phone got turned off for 4 days, in the meantime I am e-mailing him letting him know. He did not even respond to my e-mails. I turned it back on and called him...no answer, he never called me back..never returned e-mails, sent me to voice mail when I called. Will not talk to me at all. And of course he never came in to town to visit. I am really upset and wonder what it could be? The phone? Why could he not at least tell me why he is not talking to me. I am really confused because when we did talk, all he talked about was how awesome I was and how he could not wait to see me again, how much he missed me and the list goes on.. If he thought so much about me and said he loved me (not in love) and had made all these plans for the next few months, how could he just let it go so easily???


Edited 11/15/2005 5:52 pm ET by alie07
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Registered: 12-16-1997
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 7:28pm

It could be any number of things really. He could've had a change of heart, could've met someone else, could've returned to an old GF....

I think what's more important is that you should look at the way he's treating you now and then compare that to how you want to be treated by a man who shows his interest and professes to care about you. I'm sure the way he's treating you now is the exact opposite of how you want to be treated.

Likewise, I think you should move on and forget about him. You made a great effort to keep the lines of communication open and if he could blow you off so easily without any explanation (which is just rude in my book), then you're better off without him.

Take care,
heymum

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 12:02am
Is this very out of character for him? If so, he may be ill or has had an accident.
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 8:03pm
i know he is not ill or in an accident because it has been two weeks and he still has not called. When I tried to contact him he sent me to voice mail. And when he was on line and I sent him instant messages he signed off. It hurts. It is just hard to take in because all I do is wonder why...