Does he like me

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Registered: 05-14-2011
Does he like me
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Sat, 05-14-2011 - 10:04pm
To start off my husband and I are going through a divorce. We both are better off as friends. For past few months there is guy at work that I have gotten really close with. We talk everyday, we hang with each on our days off. Go to the beach, hang out his house. Hes been there for me in so many ways. Hes been there for me with going through my divorce because hes been there. He also has a little boy. Ive met his son once which he is very protective over. Yes we have had sex a couple times. Ive spent the night at his house numerous times where he invites me. Most of the time he just cuddles and holds me
My question is I think he has feelings for me but Im not sure. This sounds so weird but i have feelings for him too but im legally married still . My husband and i are starting the process next week. To be honest I have feelings for this guy. He makes me laugh, we have the same goals we want out of life, we love to do the same things together, and connect sexually. Does this sound like he has feelings for me?

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 05-14-2011 - 11:05pm

MIchelle, if you're close enough to be having sex, then you should be close enough to be able to talk about how you feel.

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Registered: 05-14-2011
Sun, 05-15-2011 - 8:36am
I fully agree with you. On my end I have said little things to tell him I feel. Its hard bc this wasnt planned. I never thought I would meet someone this quick. We have gone out to lunch, hang out the beach. Ive spent the night a few times where no sex involved just cuddling and he will wrap his legs around me. We wake up and says ok what are we doing today and well go to the beach today. So all the signs are telling me that he wants more from me. In my opinion I think hes waiting till my divorce is final bc he is very cautious how he words things which completely understand. Not sure if he thinks that i could get back with my soon to be ex which is definitely not happening.
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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 5:34pm

Michelle, most of

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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 5:45pm
Honestly that he would freak out and not want to see me anymore. Like today im at work and we have txt alk day. He said that he wants to see me tomorroe night and go to the beach with me on tuesday. He also said that it sucks that hes on midnight shift and im on days bc its hard to get
together. Which it isnt bc we have the same days off. I think im just going to continue with how things are and once im divorced i think thats when his feelings will come out for me.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 7:20pm

Michelle, if he freaks out and doesn't want to see you anymore....this would only prove that he wasn't into you to start with.

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Fri, 05-27-2011 - 6:18pm
Ok I talked to him. He didn't freak out. He said that well see how it plays out. Im in the process of my divorce and waiting to take my state exam. He said concentrate on that and once thats done, he said we will see what happens next.
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Registered: 01-03-2011
Sun, 05-29-2011 - 10:29pm
You need to talk with him about it. You deserve to know the truth from him. I went through a similar situation and assumed me and the guy were headed down the path to a serious, long term, together forever relationship. Turns out, he wasn't into it.

We were like you and your guy for about a year before I finally said something. He backed away and said that we were "too close" to be together and that he didn't want to ruin the potential of a lifelong friendship with me. FRIENDSHIP. Crazy, but true. It was shocking to me. I was really hurt for a long time. And I had to continue working with this guy.

I think you should talk to him and let him know exactly what you want in a life-long relationship. Try not to think of him when you're figuring that part out. It should be what you want - not how you can make him seem to fit into your life. Set your standard and see if he is the right man to match that. I learned a big lesson from my situation. Never assume. Ask questions. Talk.

Good luck! :)
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Mon, 05-30-2011 - 8:28am
Thank you for your comment. But from our talk we are gonna take things slow. I don't want to jump into something long term right now. We both agreed that we are gonna keep hanging out like we are doing. He said we will just go to the flow and see how everything plays out. I totally understand his reasoning bc im not divorced yet. He told me that we should take one thing at a time and hes right. Hes divorced and has a little boy which he has full custody to think about to. I really think us taking it slow is best. I just wanted to let him know how I felt. Like I said we talk almost everyday and when we are off together we hang out and i spend the night at his place. I even asked him about if he just wanted me in a physical way he said no bc then he would try something wih me everyyime I see him. Which tells me he wants more just wants things to happen on their. I truly feel hes being cautious which I would too.
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Mon, 05-30-2011 - 10:56pm

"Never assume. Ask questions. Talk."

k2002
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Wed, 06-01-2011 - 6:12pm

That's great you talked!

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