Does he like me?

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Registered: 06-04-2005
Does he like me?
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Sun, 06-05-2005 - 2:17am
A guy I have known a long time has been giving me mixed signals. Sometimes I think he likes me. Sometimes I don't know. I told him I like him but he said he didn't see me like that. There has been nothing physical. Is it hopeless?
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 2:48am

Hi Goddess Chickie,

I'm sorry to say that I don't think that things will improve much. If he says that he does not see you that way, then he has probably dispelled those mixed signals for good. He may just be playing games with you, but he's not interested, or he may just be completely oblivious to certain things that he says or does with you to make you feel as though he has romantic feelings for you. Either way it would not work out in your favour.

If you want to try and see if you could still be more than just friends, maybe you could try to change his view of you. If you act like a friend, then that's all he'll see you as. But, if you show an interest in him, such as flirting, casually touching his arm when you talk, etc. then maybe he might start to see you in a different light.

In other words, don't be one of the guys, stand out and make him notice a different side of the friend that he knows and loves :O).

BUT, there's another issue that might come up: he might just not be into you...and he never will. Then all that flirting and such could just make him uncomfortable and ruin your friendship.

I know I sound very contradictory and I've probably confused you even more -Sorry :O(- but it really depends on the type of person he is, as well as how you act with him, and how he really views you.

I hope you find the answer that your looking for, and that I've helped somewhat...good luck!
Yvy.