does he still care?

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Registered: 04-15-2003
does he still care?
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Wed, 05-10-2006 - 1:51am

hey, my name is michelle

im 21 hes 22...i was good friends with this guy (bob) for about 7 months...we stopped talking, bc our "friednship" got messy... i was in love with him, he denied his feeilngs. wed have sleepovers....hed hold me really tight, even kissed me once.....on the lips.....he left me confused.. we got into a fight one nite cuz i told my best friend who told him when she got drunk that i told her what happened... he got fed up bc id always tell her stuff, and hed rather keep it private.. i only told her cuz i was confused....we got into a fight and he said that he had feelings for me but we both needed to move on and that we shoudlnt be friedns anymore...so i cried my eyes out and never talked to him again

so i dated this guy who liked me, we went out for 3 months..i heard bob got angry cuz i did that.. either way, 4 months after we stopped talking, i ran into him at a club on the last nite before skool let out....we talked things out a little bit.. we danced... i felt like he took care of me : someone spilt a drink on my arm and he wiped it off with his hand....he gave me a sip of his drink, even though i didnt want it, he said "cmon its only me" so i took a sip and i gagged, he tried to pat my back cuz he thought i was choking....then he offered to by me a drink....he said i looked good.. and i know i did bc i got like 10 compliments (not to brag)...does all this mean he still cares?

next day around 1 pm he calls me to make sure he dint make a fool outta himself or that i was mad at him.. he said "u used to get mad at me a lot and i never understood why" im like of course im not mad u dint make an idiot outta urself...he said that he told me the nite before hed call me more often-- i dint remember....we talked a bit and he told me to call him at nite, but i dint call till two nites later (last nite)-- he dint call back.. but he also hadnt bene home for an entire 4 months .....anyway....i never expected id talk to him again.. i did contacted him like twice when we werent talking but our convos were half-ass..this time he made the effort... im happy now..... my question is? u think he still has feelings for me?

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 9:09am
I think it doesn't really matter if he still has feelings for you or not. Clearly he's very immature and doesn't know how to have a real relationship. Unless he can somehow prove that he's grown up, I would stay far away from him.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Thu, 05-11-2006 - 10:29am

That's such BS. Basically if he hasn't called you and make excuses about it, then he doesn't care about you. He only paid attention to you cause you were right there in front of him instead of on the phone. Frankly this guy is immature, and you need to move on with your life.

If you really want to have a conversation with him to find out what his deal is, either try to call him on the phone saying you want to meet him. If you get to see him face to face, tell him what the deal is and ask what is problem is, if he cant be straight with you, and makes up some BS stuff...then blow him off cause he aint worth your time. Or you can hit to him that you are going to a club, or some local place around where you live with some friends, then hit him up and confront him. If he hasn't been home for 4 months, does he have a cell #?

He only called you back once, and everytime you have tried to call him back..he hasn't called you. He's a immature little boy. Just remember that girls are always more mature than boys at the same age. They start waking up after they are 25. Dont fool yourself on this one, he's not interested.