Does it cloud the issue?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Does it cloud the issue?
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Mon, 05-09-2005 - 12:28pm

This was from my CM, and thought you all would have lots to say on this. So what are your thoughts?


Building off your QOTW - I wonder if sex clouds the issue of if it's
meant to be? Like does a woman try to build up the relationship in her
mind after she sleeps with the guy - ignoring the doubts she has? Does
she have more doubts about if it's meant to be before they have sex?

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Registered: 05-04-2005
Mon, 05-09-2005 - 1:34pm

I DEFINITELY think sex clouds women's minds about if he's the one or not. Why? Cuz too many times, sex is EMOTIONAL to women, they feel "connected" and a "chemistry" when in fact, it could just be sexual attraction. Most women can't tell the difference (including myself at one point).


And besides, how many women do we see on the boards that ASSUME their bf/guy friend is into them cuz they slept with them? And then, women start fantasizing about the future with the man they're sleeping with and next thing you know, they got the wedding, kids names, and family life planned out already. Adn well, they FEEL like he must be the one then.


And we all know that's probably happened to ourselves too. There are very few women who can say he's the one, w/o sex being an issue, and/or w/o sexual attraction being an issue.


~pineapple_girl