dont know what to do

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Registered: 05-05-2005
dont know what to do
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Thu, 05-05-2005 - 6:03pm

HI yall,

I dont know where to start? I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. And i just recently found out that he slept with my bestfriend. ive been bestfriend with this girl for 8 years now. Needless to say i confronted the both of them, come to find out that i was in the house when they had sex! (i was sleeping they were in the computer room) I am so hurt because these are the two people i trust the most. my best friend all she said was that it happend and that she was sorry. but that she has been in love with him. i am living in her house because i just moved to this state with him and i just feel so betrayed!
he has cried to me and pleaded to me non stop but i just dont have it in my heart to forgive him. i cant even write anymore i cant stop crying

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Registered: 05-04-2005
Mon, 05-09-2005 - 11:13am

Hugs. And you're right, your xbf now, does NOT deserve you and you definitely deserve better. I always figure, if he (or if someone) loved you ask much as they claim AFTERWARDS, they never would've strayed to begin with.


You will survive. Stay strong.

~pineapple_girl

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Registered: 05-10-2005
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 1:43pm
Awww, honey. Listen, you have to get rid of them both. You can't be friends with someone who has hurt you so bad, that's horrible and not fair to you. You deserve better! And as for your boyfriend, you need to get rid of him, I know that it will be hard for you, because you love him so much, but it could happen again, you never know. He may say that it won't and that he loves you and all that stuff, but sometimes things jsut happen and you can't control the outcome...If I was you I would end it with him and your friend.. I don't understand how a friend could even do something like that, it's not fair at all... You'll find better friends who you can build a trust with, and a boyfriend who will love you till the end, just make sure you give yourself sometime!
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 4:19am

hugs to you girl, I think you are really brave and are doing well. I dont know how i would react if my best friend did that and to make it worse with my bf. You are doing good, you are gonna move on and going a step above them because they are just not worth it. I can understand your confusion as i am in a confused state myself but I think you being able to do something about it is great. It is so strange how people you trust the most always let you down, but now they will always regret it as they have both lost someone too, who is better of a person than them. I think eveyone makes mistakes but you said you found out it was going on for long, i believe mistakes are made once and thus forgiven, you cant call something you ( in this case him) did repeatedly for a long period of time a mistake because with that excuse it could continue being a mistake until you found out!

As far as your ex- best friend is concerned, she seems to be an evil person who was pretending to be your best friend because best friends usually want the best for you, not ruin what they know means alot to you for their own selfish reasons! She doesnt deserve your friendship is what i think.

Goodluck and hope eveything works out for you.

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