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| Fri, 04-21-2006 - 11:25pm |
I've written on here before a couple of weeks ago. Basically to make a long story short, my bf and I have been dating for almost a year now. Its been a long distance relationship since we go to different colleges about an hour apart. We're both very dedictated to school, but sometimes it just seems like I make more of an effort.
I've written on here before about how whenever he has a test he'll go a week w/out saying more than a word to me, which is fine b/c I'm busy too but I think that everyone has 5 minutes in their day and I'm taking more credits and I have a job so I don't understand why 5 minutes is such a big deal. The real kicker is that we have two sets of friends that are dating. We basically set them up but compared to those relationships I ask practically nothing of my bf. Since I go to college in our home town, when he comes home we spend time together, but compared to his friends gfs, I have never asked him to not spend time w/his friends or family. Tonight when I called him to see how his game went, he brushed me off saying he was going out, but then when I said I was going out w/ a few of my guy friends he got all angry and wanted to know what I was going to do. I got a little angry and said that he needed to make more of an effort with me because when I visit him I don't like getting dragged to parties where I'm left to fend for myself while he hangs out w/his friends. He said he never did that but when I brought up times he did he said that I had wanted to go. I guess I don't understand why I'm always the one to call, why I'm the one that usually visits and why I'm the one that makes more of an effort. I know its not another girl or anything. When I do go down everyone talks about how much he talks about me and how much they want to meet the girl hes dating, but I mean really why talk about me when you can talk to me?
I'm sorry I'm really venting but I want to know if it sounds like I'm being a crybaby or if I really should be mad.

Sweetie, long distance relationships rarely work. Especially ones where the partners have such different priorities.
I suggest that you look for a guy who lives close to you and wants the same type of relationship as you. Your current guy seems quite happy with his way of life - and therefore will not change and become the type of boyfriend you want.