Doubts that prevent Recovery
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|Sat, 08-28-2010 - 11:20am|
On another board, "Living Together" I wrote about my doubts about moving in with my boyfriend of 15 months. I came to a conclusion that I shouldn't move in with them because of DOUBTS.
There are points of the relationship that I wonder if I should just move on since we have been together for 15 months...and my doubts hasn't lessen. I truly love him and there's no doubt that he loves me. We joke around about getting a ring on my finger all the time but I don't know if he is really considering it.
We broke up once during our 15 months, and had a few big arguments where we didn't talk to each other for a couple of days. But through everything, I know I want to be with him and love him. We have be able to become more open with each other as time moves on, but the arguments and the break up is always in back of my mind.
I'm not sure how to move on from it. I want to become more serious and I love the idea of moving in together and getting one step closer to "marriage" but I'm always thinking what if we fight? If we break up again?
How should I handle these doubts and put them in the past? I want to focus on the present and that's what we are trying to do, make our relationship work. How can I bring out the word "marriage" w/o scaring him off? I don't want the marriage now. Maybe in two or three years...but I want him to know that he's someone I want to settle down with.