The end isn't always, the end
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The end isn't always, the end
| Mon, 09-26-2005 - 9:11pm |
You know, not in all cases but sometimes, when things go wrong and a couple makes a split, in the end or down the road a bit they do reconcile. And it is for the better, ie. not going down the same sad road again or making mistakes. Maybe they realize what they meant to each other and in the future try a bit harder to make it work instead of just quiting so easily.
All of these posts are so sad and hopeless.
Anyone here, ever have a happy ending after a breakup?

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I know it's cheesy, but it is so very true if we just open ourselves up to it. "Whenever a door is closed another is opened."
There are three things in life we should never, ever surrender and noone can ever truly take unless we give them over ourselves: freedom, love, and hope. And the most important of those three is HOPE, because with hope you can reclaim the other two. The only people who are ever turly lost are those who give up.
Yes, breakups suck and they hurt, but we can learn and grow from them and ultimately end up with better partners because of them. Breakups shouldn't be hopeless.
There's a cheesy line in the movie "Romancing the Stone" someone says to the Kathleen Turner's character, "You're such a hopeless romantic." and she responds, "HOPEFUL romantic."
Call me chessy but that's what I am I'm a realist and I'm a HOPEFUL romantic. Sure love can be tough but life in general is tough why would love be any different?
I honestly think you can have a very happy ending after a breakup...and getting back together. It just depends on the maturity level of both parties, how willing they are to "start over", how much they want it, and how much they've learned and grown since the breakup. I have sat here and watched a handful of my friends ATTEMPT to try again....so far, it seems the guys haven't changed one bit, but because my friends have, they see faster how much their SO is an ass to them....so they leave.
However......I was always hopeful for them. Because sometimes, you do need a second chance, at a better time.
Just because you split up, doesn't mean you were NEVER meant to be together, it just means you weren't meant to be together at that time in both your lives.
I think it can happen. In fact, I hope it happens. Because then that gives me hope that people change, for the better, and one day, you may be with someone you never thought you ever would be with again....and have it work.
I've had many a happy ending, but not how you are suggesting.
I've felt the incredible freedom of being out of a bad relationship. And I've found that I can find a BETTER relationship than the one I left.
Breakups are not a bad thing....they're simply a new beginning.
I've recently been in in contact with an ex, we dated for a year and broke up a little over a year and a half ago. He broke up with me and I was very hurt, he wanted to be friends but I told him I couldn't do it.
Fast forward to about two weeks ago, I moved to a new city about 8 months ago but am planning to return to my hometown in about 6 months. I had been thinking about my ex a lot and decided I needed to contact him, I didn't have a number for him anymore so I wrote him a letter. A few days go by and I get a text message from him saying he got my letter and how great it was to hear from me and how he would call me that night. He does and we have a great conversation, he immediately apologizes for how he ended things and said he got scared and that he was sorry he had hurt me and how he handled things. He said he was very happy that I contacted him and he said he takes responsibility for really messing things up. We are now talking almost daily and I'm going to see him when I go home for Thanksgiving. We have said we'll be friends at the least and see what happens from there so we're both on the same page.
Looking back we could never have worked out before, I have changed a lot (in my opinion for the better) and he also seems to have matured. I'm not sure what the future holds but I do think if we ultimately get back together we are both better people now.
So, yes I do think it can work out but I think it depends entirely on the people involved obviously. On the other hand, there are also exes who I really don't care to ever see again.
My (now) husband and I dated for a year, things moved too fast, we (both) had some issues to work through, we split, and over a year later, still cared about each other, we tried again, and have been back together for over a year, and were married in July. We both were able to spend that time apart working on our own problems and making changes in our lives. Everything happens for a reason, and we both grew in ways that we would not done while we were split up. Things are very different now.
We do have happy endings.
Good luck to all.
Carrie
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