ex bf and I talked...

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ex bf and I talked...
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 4:11pm

Posted on another board but thought I'd try some more views... Broke up a year and a half ago with the guy that I thought was "the one". Hard break up and he didn't talk at all to me until the other night. We live in a small town and bump into each other and he called a few months ago leaving me a message that he wanted to talk only to not return my message saying "okay". Anyways, we saw each other and he was friendly to me by saying "hi" but I gave him the cold shoulder. My friends are friends w/ him and his friends and I was sick and tired of being uncomfortable around everyone when my friends can talk to him.

So I called him and this time he called me back right away and said he really wanted to talk to me the other night but his friends didn't think it was a good idea. We ended up talking for a long time and it was a really good conversation. He was very honest and open with a lot of things and why things happened. His cell phone died and 10 minutes later he was at my door... So he came in and had a few beers and we talked some more and the chemistry was obvious. I wasn't feeling well and coughing some. He remarked that he thought I'd hit him when he came over and was surprized I didn't. He than said that I can get him sick for revenge and he leaned over and kissed me. My heart is still pretty cold but it felt so comfortable having him over.

He said that he regrets how things turned out. He's dated a few girls but always seems to push them away. He realizes he's stubborn and it gets in the way of relationships. He said he's very comfortable at my house and he thought our relationship was good 95% of the time. He also said he doesn't think he can ever make me happy. I talked a little bit about wanting more but he seemed to advoid that conversation head on and just made little comments suggesting it. We did end up in bed together and I said I can't do this if it's just sex. I said I want more and he jokingly said, what, you want me to marry you? I said jokingly, "yes" so he said he'll bring me a ring in the morning. Of coarse this didn't happen but thought it was amusing. We have a very similar sense of humor which I find difficult to find.

Anyways, I'm feeling like if the opportunity is there, I should go for it but this time with eyes wide open, with complete honesty and open lines of communication. I'm not sure if he's ready to date though he made many hints but I can tell he's scared. I want to wait to see if he calls me. This happened Friday. But if I don't hear from him, I'll probably call him. Know this is a very uncertain area and I'm realistic on it probably not working out but I don't want to think of the "what ifs" and if it doesn't work... maybe I can finally move on from him.... thoughts? Thanks