There is no such thing as a Mr. or Miss Perfect, so in some respects you will be settling in every single relationship you have. You're not perfect, so he too will need to accept your quirks just as you will need to accept his if you want this relationship to have a chance.
Since you've been dating only a few short weeks, it may be in your best interests to give this more time than you have and see if he becomes more relaxed, comfortable and open.
Honestly I think you are wishing to much on this guy for something to happen. Granted all the things that you talked about are great however if it's gonna happen, it would have happened already. I think he probably sees you as more of a friend and nothing more. As far as settling, you should never settle and you should never put extra effort/time/energy into something that was never going to happen in the first place.
From what you wrote, you are already questioning things about this guy, and that's not a good thing. Don't try and rationalize this guy and let the possibility of a relationship go. He probably needs more experience with other girls, and the things you wrote about him not being romantic, and not much experience...do you really want that in a man?!
One thing to remember is that relationships happen when you least expect it, and if the guy has interest in you he will let you know by making plans and doing whatever is necessary to be with you. You are already questioning this guy, and you need to listen to what your gut has already told you. Move on from this one, there's a better one out there waiting for you.
Sweetpea, thanks for your insight! I feel exactly what you described and I know deep down I'm just not feeling it. But since I'm trying to be more patient with the guys I date... I just want to make sure I'm not being hasty. I do want to clarify though that he does make an effort to hangout, so it's not that he's not showing interest.. I know he's interested and I know he's the type who won't play games, which sadly some of the guys in my past are notorious for doing. But everytime we talk on the phone I notice our conversations are just so dull and I always felt that the beginning stages are the most exciting part... when you get to know the person.
Anyway I think I partly just cleared my doubt in my own head. In the end I know I need to be with someone who is easier to talk to and hopefully won't come with commitment baggage.
Thanks for your feedback!
Your description of the "dry guy" sounds eerily similar to a guy I was dating last year! Same kind of thing, really nice guy, similar interests, smart, had his life together...but very dry...I was doing 75% of the talking and asking questions and was much more animated than he was. He later said he felt "a connection" on our initial dates; I realized he was mistaking my animation for chemistry between us! And convos on the phone were unbearable (mostly initiated by him).
After awhile I cut it loose because I just wasn't feeling it...I described it as a "lack of chemistry." You haven't said quite that in so many words, but I think humor and ability to banter is essential to hold my interest...I felt that with this guy, I'd always have a wandering eye for someone funnier or more mentally stimulating and that wasn't fair to him. He told me he felt I wasn't giving it a fair chance to "let the chemistry be explored and developed" and that I needed to be patient with him, as he was very reserved. I felt that 10 dates was plenty.