Fate's Dirty Little Trick

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Fate's Dirty Little Trick
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Mon, 09-12-2005 - 3:39pm

PLEASE, PLEASE, I need some help on this one!!! I have been in a serious relationship with this guy for a few years, and I have been planning to end it with him, come October. Well, he decided to take us to Vegas for a week, which was last week, so, what's a girl to do. We get to Vegas, everything is going O.K., except the fact that I was feeling really sad, wishing I was out of this relationship, and on to a new life, so to speak. I managed to get the attention of several guys, so that was an ego booster. But there was this one guy. I happened to sit down at the same poker table where he was sitting. I noticed him, but wasn't sure he noticed me, since he was sitting between two young know-it-all cocky kids. Well, I left the table to go get dressed for the evening. Later that evening, I was in the poker room again, playing a tournament, and had to go to the bathroom, while I was returning, I noticed this guy was at a table, turned to his right, so that he could catch my attention, he was smiling really big. It caught me offguard, so I just smiled and went on. ( My guy was at another casino poker room). After the tournament, I left the poker room for awhile to meet with my guy. But he wanted to go to bed, so I just went back down to the poker room, and played a cash table. About fifteen minutes in, I looked up, and this same guy was coming in, and as he walked by, (and gazing at me, smiling), I just smiled really big, and said hi, He said hi, smiled, and went on to his table in the back of the poker room. Well, I gave it about 20 minutes, and then decided I had to go to the bathroom, so I got up and walked back towards this guys table, and of course, he was staring again, and I back, I am sure someone could see what was going on, because it was so obvious with both of our smiles. When I returned, it was as if he hadn't taken his eyes off of me. We were both smiling really big. About 45 minutes later, I noticed him walking out of the poker room. I watched him, and when he got outside of the room, he just stood there, so I got up to get a rack for my chips, (I had won, so I needed two racks, and this was time consuming). By the time I had gotten my cash, and walked to the front of the room, I could not see him anywhere, so I just walked around in circles for a while, hoping that I would run into him. No such luck. I went back to the room, where Mr. Excitement was sleeping(sorry). The next day, My guy and I went to the poker room for a tournament. I was hoping that this guy would come in. After the tournament, my guy went to another casino, while I stayed, in hopes of seeing this guy again. About an hour and a half later, my guy walks in wanting to go to lunch. Still no site of this guy. I was afraid that he had left, and I wouldn't be able to connect with him at all. After lunch, my guy and I go back to this poker room, to register for the tournament that night, and to play at the cash tables. There was a waiting list, and I put my name on first, then his. About ten minutes the hostess took me back to a table, and I was scanning the room to see if this guy was there. As I walked towards my seat, I noticed this guy is sitting next to me, smiling as big as the sun!!! I smiled back, of course. THIS WAS FATE!!!!!! He asked how I was doing, I answered, much better now that I'm sitting next to you. He replied "my poker playing can't be that bad. I said "That's not what I meant. His reply, I'm just teasing you. I got my chips, and leaned in towards him a little bit, and said "you ran off in a hurry last night!". At that point, I noticed my guy standing behind me, looking off to the other direction, so I am hoping he didn't hear me then. Well, I looked back at this guy, and he said he wasn't getting any cards, so thought he better quit while still ahead. Then he asked what time did you leave last night? I said, about ten after twelve, and he just came closer to my face, and stared straight into my eyes, and said, "you must have left right after me. Knowing that my guy was behind me, I just smiled right back and stared right into his eyes, and slowly shook my head up and down. It was like a light went on in his head, and he realized there was something going on between us. At that point, this lady to the right of this guy gets up,
and my guy sits down, at which point he says to me, HELLO LOVE. What could I say, so I just said Hey. Once I sat down next to this guy, I had intended to tell him that I was attracted to him very much, and that I was there with someone, but was going to end the relationship once back home, and that I would really like to see him again. But the plan went all to hell once my guy sat down. So, how do I get information from this guy, without it being too obvious, so I asked him if he was there by himself, and he said he met his brother there for a few days, and that the brother had to go back the day before. He then stated that he had to leave very shortly to catch his flight home. He said "what about you, you here with anybody, which my guy heard, and I just pointed to him, at which time, my guy said that I was with him. This guy was very nice about the situation, and he just kind of went along with the conversation my guy was having, and was very gracious when replying. I couldn't think of anything to say, I felt horrible, here I am, trying to hook up with this guy, and my guy sitting right there. But I didn't care, I wanted to find a way to see this guy again. I asked him where he was from, and he said Wilmington, DE. I wanted to ask his name, but thought that would be too rude in front of my guy. This guy said that this was his last hand, and that he had to leave. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!, Don't leave yet, I don't know your name. So I excused myself, to go to the bathroom, hoping that he would run into me on his way out. But it didn't happen, and when I went back to the table, he was gone!!!!! Now What do I do, I would really like to see this guy again, but how do I find him????? Knock on every door in Wilmington????????? I will if I have to!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please offer any ideas, or suggestions!!!!!!!!I know that if this guy and I got together, it would be pretty awesome!! There was a connection, but the timing wasn't right. The one time I had to get to know him, Fate decides to make me work HARD for it. This guy must be scratching his head, wondering what that was all about, because my signals were pretty obvious, and then here he is, stuck between this girl he might be interested in, and the guy she is with. WEIRD!!!! If nothing else, I would like to apologize to him for the way that situation turned out, and that that wasn't the way I had envisioned that moment. I know, I don't know anything about him, but haven't you ever met someone, and just know that there is something wonderful about to happen between you two. That is how I feel about this guy. Maybe nothing more that a friendship, but my heart hasn't raced like that in a very long time, and it felt really really good!!!!!!! And wow, what a smile, and that dark hair, and blue eyes, and glasses. Oh my, I'm rambling, sorry . Anyway, any input would be greatly appreciated!!!!!

Thanks!!!!!!!

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 4:27pm
Get a grip girl.
He smiled, you smiled. You made idle chit chat and that was that.
He was probably just flirting and being friendly with you.
Another thing. What gall you have to do that in front of your boyfriend. I feel so sorry for him. How would you like it if the next time you two are out he decides to flirt with some girl right in front of your face? I mean, I could not believe what I was reading.
You call that fate? I call it dirty.
If you're not happy in your relationship, don't lead the poor guy on. Get out and let some other girl have him who deserves him. You're clearly holding on to him because no one else is around who sparks your interest and I think that's wrong.
You clearly knew nothing about this other guy and flew head over heels just because he smiled at you and chatted with you a bit. I flirt with guys like that all of the time but I don't think I could be that low to do that in front of my boyfriend.
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Registered: 05-04-2005
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 4:29pm
I'll be honest, I didn't read the whole story, but why are you waiting until October to break up with your guy? What's the point of waiting?

~pineapple_girl