Finding reasons to see him

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Finding reasons to see him
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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 2:51pm
In January, I finally got the nerve to call someone I had had my eye on. I left a message that I wanted to talk to him.....
He couldn't place me, but after playing phone tag for literally several weeks, we set up a lunch date. He had a mistaken impression of me, thanks to one of his friends, and anxiously called for a date the following Friday. After things were made crystal clear as to what expectations I did NOT have, we parted after a very nice and emotionally revealing evening.
We have kept in touch, our kids play on the same ball team, he has shown me several kind gestures. But no plans for any future activities together, so I finally suggested lunch again, over another phone message. He brought it up and said we could discuss it the following week. This past week he suggested the nice resturaunt he had gone to, and that we could have lunch there, but no offer of a time.
The thing is, I find myself really falling for this guy. We haven't had any physical contact other than a hug after the Friday date, which in some ways I find making him all the much more attractive. This whole thing has happened over a period of several months. Ball season ends in just a couple of weeks and I want to let him know I still want to share time and space with him...... without appearing too forward. I don't want to let this wonderful catch of a man escape me... I am a somewhat shy and introverted person so lack the real skills of a social butterfly........ :)
Opinions please on how I should handle this. Thank you!!!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 3:40pm
JMHO, but he doesn't seem to interested. He suggests a resaurant but no time. You had to initiate the call. Why hasn't he as he did before suggest going out. Your putting to much energy into this. I would back off and allow him to pursue espcially since your introverted because what you start will be what he expects and he will then expect you always plan and he do nothing and you will get tired of that.
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Registered: 05-04-2005
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 4:00pm

To the OP.

Sorry, but I'd have to agree. I see you as chasing HIM down, and he doesn't seem interested. I'd think if I was interested, not only would I suggest a place, I'd suggest a time. So far, you've done all the work and he's done none.

Also, him not wanting physical touching with you, could be because he's not interested, not because he's a "good sweet wholesome guy". Don't mistake nonchalance for chivalry.

Hugs.

~pineapple_girl