First Date Sex ... I Need Your Help
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| Sun, 10-09-2005 - 3:20am |
Hello All I have never posted here before. I need some advise about a man. I have been talking to this guy well over a year and also on the phone. I finally met him was well long to short we had sex. I told him I didn't want to because it was our first meeting, but on the way out the door well.. we kissed again and it led to sex.
Day 1
Then the next days, all day no call..(I thought) I was really sad. I called him once early in the day and then later and left a message. I was wondering if he was ignoring me and so i called from a friends call and he didnt answer.. But later he call the cell back.
Day 2
I was really sad.. I am not sure why I let the situation get to me so bad, I must like him more than I thought. I woke up about 11am that day ( I was up most of the night upset about all of this.) I looked at my phone and had a missed call. It was him. I checked my messages and found out that he had already called earlier in the day and the call on day 2 was his 2nd message.
The Issue. I dont want this to be a one day stand I like this guy and want to turn this around. I have talked to him once since all of this but it has been 2 days since then. He does work 6 day a week and before our meeting we did not talk every day. He is an Island Guy (from panama) and like to be rubbed and massaged, I did massage him but was not confortable I have never been the kind of girl that was affectionate. I realize this is something that must change. I need your help. What do I do how do I do it, I am so lost, so confused, What do I do. I just want a chance with him.
What do I do.

BT's
godesdevine...
It's only Pianoguy's 2 cents....but do you suppose your sexual encounter was one of those 'spur of the moment' events? In other words...your behavior was spontaneous because of ...err...curiosity? .
Your biggest problem is trying to adjust to the possibility of no phone calls or any communication from "the man from panama!" And even though you probably felt that one night of passion was going to lead to 'bigger and better things'---you might have to readjust your thoughts a little?
There are some men (as well as women) who are 'caught up in the throes of passion' and think ABSOLUTELY NOTHING about what happens after a ONE-NIGHT STAND! But to give 'the man from Panama' the benefit of the doubt...try and hang on for 2 weeks. If there's no communication or the possibility of a 2nd date...you might have to toss him overboard?
Just one question: Do you REALLY like this man? Or is it just THE SEX that turns you on?
Pianoguy
Actually no its not unusual. We dont talk every day so I guess I should not be all that broke up.. But The thing is that before we hadn't had sex and I guess that is the difference.. I dont want it to be a one night stand. I want to take it slow but I want us to have a change at more. He does work 6 days a week so He is busy. That has not changed.
I have never been in this situation.. I know he is the kinda guy that like's back rubs and affection.. I have not been in that position. But its more because of fear I think, I want the same thing. That kind of intamacy but I dont know how to open up.. No man has challanged me before in this way.
BT's
Hello Gang. First of all I want to thank you all for your kind words and support.
Update
Well its several days later and We have talked a few times. He does not seem to be shying off from me but I did call him yesterday and got no answer.. He told me sunday when we talked that I sounded like something was wrong.. That He was trying to be there for me. Now I didn't think anything was wrong but who knows. He probably senced the nervousness in my voice about our situation. I am trying to not address this with him until we were face to face.. I am not sure If I can wait that long. I dont know. I am still uneasy about this but and as I saie I do want us to have a chance at something.. I have tried to get my mind off of him by joining some online dating sigtes. I will let you know how that goes as well. I have a few hits and tons of im's on Yahoo personals.
He seems so different like sunday he told me.. I want to be there for your I promise and I dont brake my promises, A man's word is all that he has. Boy Where did he come from. Where I live all men do is lie.
any advise would be appreciated.