FRIENDS TO LOVERS TO FRIENDS

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Registered: 03-19-2003
FRIENDS TO LOVERS TO FRIENDS
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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 1:47pm
You were friends and you crossed the line and became lovers... How do you go back to being friends?
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Registered: 08-28-2005
Tue, 04-04-2006 - 2:53pm
I think sometimes things cannot go back to the way they were.Just depends on how intense each person's fellings were in the relationship. I think it would be wise to have no contact for several months. Then slowly talk on the phone occasionally, email or just meet for a bite to eat. I think initially it can be uncomfortable, but I think if both people really want to make the friendship work then it will.
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Registered: 04-05-2006
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 3:17pm
there's this quote which i think is quite accurate 'if lovers can return to being juist friends either they are still in love or they never were'. so it depends on how strong the feelings were. things probably will never be the same but that's not to say they can't be better than before. for example if you found that there was nothing more than friendship there anyway you may be able to rekindle and even closer relationship as you should be very comfortable with eachother, having experienced more intimacy than any other friendship. if this is the kind of relationship you were in i would advise you to discuss the situation with the other person. the honesty will bring you closer together and remove awkwardness.