Friends w/ Benefits or More?

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Registered: 12-28-2004
Friends w/ Benefits or More?
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Thu, 12-01-2005 - 10:33am

Hey all - I'm back seeking some advice on my current situation. I know this is super early to even be able to figure anything out, but whatever you have to say to is greatly appreciated.
So. I'm 24...I met this guy Mark, who is 26, this past Saturday. I know, VERY recent. There are also plenty of no-no's that I committed. :) We met at a local bar, his friends came back and drank with the rest of my roommates and I. Mark ended up staying over (yes, we slept together) til 3pm the next day. We laid in bed, talked, watched the game, etc. He said he'd call me later. Lo and behold he did...he ended up coming back over that night around 9 stayed till 11 (no sex). He called Monday and came over, had dinner with us, hung out and stayed till midnight (yes on sex). Tuesday was the same deal and last night he came over we had some beers, watched a movie (he holds my hand and really makes me feel relaxed) and he ended up sleeping over. Sex is amazing so part of me wouldn't be all that upset if this is what he's treating the situation as. Last night he was asking me questions like my parent's names, where I grew up, etc. He already had me in bed so he doesn't need to pretend, but guys are weird so...

Basically I'm starting to like him. Yeah, that usually happens when sex is involved, but he's sweet and makes me laugh. I don't care what my friends think. I just want some opinions on what is going on here. Does it seem like a friends with benefits thing? I don't want to get my emotions fully involved if so. We've been spending so much time together that it just makes me wonder.

Thanks in advance -

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 11:42am

Like you said it is too soon to tell so don’t get your feelings involved and go along for the ride if you’re happy with the way things are going.

Marie

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Registered: 06-22-2005
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 5:03pm
It's so early that you can't even classify him as your friend yet. If you feel like you are going to want something more from the relationship (long term/committed/exclusive) than I would refrain from having sex with him until you know where you stand with him. But if you have no problem at all with being sex buddies than enjoy it while it lasts. But the fact that you posted on here seeking advice, makes me think you want something more than a sex buddy. Have a talk with him if that is the case.
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