Getting Back With An Ex???
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| Wed, 08-24-2005 - 1:54am |
I broke up with my boyfriend of almost two years because he feels very immature, and doesn't know what he wants right now, is going through some personal issues, and doesn't know all the reasons why he doesn't feel the same way he did about me before...He's basically just very confused right now, and has some growing up to do. He wanted us to have frequent contact after our break up, but I have not done this because that will just confuse him more than he already is. Not to mention the fact that it would be too hurtful to have a "friends only" relationship with him because I still love him. It's been almost three months, during which he's texted me that he misses me, and called me a few times just to see how I am, and my family are. He actually called a week ago just to say hi to my mom, and to tell me he wanted to see my dad in the hospital who is sick. However I told him thanks, but that my dad was ok and it wasn't necessary for him to go see him. He's also tried to hint other times for us to see each other, but I haven't done that because I don't think it would be wise for us to spend alone time together so soon. So during these three months I've only seen him a few times near my work since he works near me, and it's been a quick "hello, how are you doing?" type of contact.
So what I wonder is...
If a guy separates from his girl because he needs time or space to find himself and what he wants, and after a few months realizes that he loves her and wants to be with her:
Will he go to the ends of the earth to try to win back the girl even if she rejects him at first, or do they not do anything even if they are dying to reconcile?
I've been adviced to just let it go, because if he loves me and we are meant to be he will come back. But that is my question: Do they really come back and try to work things out or do some guys have a pride thing which prevents them from trying to get back with an ex even if they are in love with them? I mean a pride thing because I've basically only called him once since we broke up even though he told me he wanted us to have regular contact. It's just that it's too painful for me to carry on just like friends with him. Could this have hurt him a lot, and have ruined any chance of reconciliation for us in the future? Or should I listen to what everyone tells me: to carry on my life and forget about him, because if he loves me he will come back?
| Fri, 08-26-2005 - 10:46pm |
