Girl in love needs advice
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| Wed, 07-13-2005 - 5:51pm |
Girl in love needs your advice... I met this guy 2 months ago at a party - met through common friends. Well... we just enjoyed each other's company and had fun together, we started talking online and he seemed really interested in keeping in touch with me. We met a few times at parties, continued talking online and spent time together when our friends were present. We really had a good time, but I heard he had a girlfriend and he also mentioned it once. But nothing happened between us ever.
We are both in college and he went to his home town over the summer to work, but we have still kept in touch by text messaging each other once or twice a week. One of our friends had a party this weekend and he really tried to convince me to go. He even offered to pick me up. Then he called me to talk about our plans and it was just so easy to talk to him, even though we hadn't been talking for about a month.
Then we went to this party this weekend. He even asked if he could have breakfast here in my apartment before we left. There were other people too in the car but he and I just had so much fun, it really felt like we were a couple.
We had so much fun at the party, we spent time just the two of us and I got to know more about his girlfriend. He said they have been together 4 years and that he doesn't know where this is leading. He said it feels more like they are friends, that he likes her but not enough.. I'm so glad he's honest to me and tells me this and just don't keep it away from me.
I think this is the best guy I have ever met. We can be totally open with each other. He is caring and care about my life aswell as he tells me about his. He's so kind and funny. We can talk about everything from realtionships to simple things like what it was like when we were little. We can even be quiet together without the situation gettin awkward. It's so easy to be with him.
When he dropped me off he gave me a hug and said we'll keep in touch. I even got a text from him when he got home that night, he thanked me for a nice weekend and again said that we'll keep in touch.
What do you think of this situation? I mean - do you think he sees me as more than a friend? I hope so and since things aren't good with his gf...
I would never make him cheat, and I don't think he would ever cheat and he truly hasn't. We are not even really flirting with each other. Sometimes I can get that special look from him... that's all.
I just really like him and really care about him, and I think he feels the same way. It would be the perfect way to start a relationship.
Do you think I should keep in touch with him over the summer, just by text messaging him now and then and just see what happens when he gets back in september? Or do you think I should mention something about what's going on in my head? About us? So that he really knows what I feel? I really need your advice! Thanks

Don't kid yourself, you're allowing yourself to fall for a guy who is TAKEN. I've been in a similar situation and let me tell you if you have real feelings for him it's going to be frustrating and heartbreaking.
You need to cut off contact until he ends things with his grilfriend or you're just setting yourself up for pain.
If you want to see how he really feels for you, then tell him how you feel and see what he DOES. Not how he reacts, what he DOES. If he really likes you and wants to pursue a realtionship with you he will end things with his girlfriend so he can date you free and clear.
Anything less then that is just bull and your selling yourself short. Don't analyze and make excuses for him if he doens't end it; there's no point only pain. If he doesn't break up with his girlfriend he's just not that into you, period.
::and I got to know more about his girlfriend. He said they have been together 4 years and that he doesn't know where this is leading. He said it feels more like they are friends, that he likes her but not enough.. I'm so glad he's honest to me and tells me this and just don't keep it away from me.
I'm sorry, but I'd be willing to bet she has no clue that he feels this way and he's looking for the 'next' girl before finishing with the current one. How sad for his girlfriend that her guy is building a relationship with another gal, behind her back, without the honesty, without care for her feelings.
Carrie