Giving up to soon?
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| Sun, 12-04-2005 - 9:15pm |
Hi everyone. Need some advice. I've been reading your messages and getting good pointers. Here is my dilemma:
I am in a four month relationship. He's 41,I'm 34. We met online and we were intimate on the first date. I know, I thought it was doomed. I was angry at myselft that I might have ruined a potential good thing. But, he surprised me. He stayed the whole weekend and has been staying with me every weekend since then. He has good qualities that I am looking for in a long term relationship. He is affectionate, goes with me to church and great with my two pups. I've even met his parents, which went well.
The problem is that I feel that I don't exist during the week. He lives 45 minutes away from me on the other side of town. Presently, he is working until 8pm and he doesn't like the commute to stay over on any weekday. I don't get calls unless I initate. After 2 months, I talked to him about it and he improved a little. If I ask on Friday night whether he is coming over, he says he needs to call me back and let me know. I don't understand why can't he give me a simple yes or no. I don't receive e-mails either. This weekend, I babysat on Saturday night and he opted to stay home to catch up. No calls this weekend.
I want to see how long it takes for him to call me. But, why should I "test" him? Shouldn't I expect a call or am I wasting my time?????? I am giving up to soon?
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks for taking time to read my posting.

Did you ever have a conversation with him about what type of relationship he's looking for? It sounds like he's just fine with the sex and companionship on the weekends when it's convenient for him, and doesn't feel the need to see you more often, talk during the week, woo you, take you out, or do any of the normal courtship/dating things a guy does.
Some women would be fine with that, but I personally would not be, and it doesn't sound like you are either. You've already made your feelings known, and he's hasn't really changed his behavior, so your choices are to accept him as is, or move on.
Sheri
Marie