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| Wed, 01-18-2006 - 12:37pm |
This is my first post to a board like this but I felt compelled by all the posts that you girls need a real guy to put things into perspective. Just a little background on myself I am 27yo male. I’m a successful private wealth manager and I have done the full range of guy things you can do. I have played roles such as wild frat boy/president of the frat, loner, mid 20’s guy with friends at bars, to finding true happiness seeing my friends with my fiancé I’d say once a quarter. I give you this range to demonstrate my credentials in interpreting a wide range of male thoughts because I lived in and am intelligent enough to understand the different stages I went through. I am happily engaged. Wedding is planned for May 19, 2007. Can't wait. I discovered this board today through the msn home page because there was an article about "Operation Matrimony" and I read the article. I was troubled that women are having such trouble understanding guys and getting married and I already post to message boards and help people solve financial problems so I figured I would take on a challenge. I will be reading your posts and will be making my comments. I will not go on and on just kind of give you a quick and dirty of what I think and then if you need more just let me know. I look forward to sharing my thoughts and learning from all of you.
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ok, thank you i'll relax and let him come to me on his own terms!!!
thank you,
Ebony
Here we go,
I basically had a sex relationship with a guy when he was single.
Then it continued after he got married.
Now it has been years, and I still want to be with him.
How do I get over this?
I know that he is never going to want to be with me.
I am sure that I am right about this one.
He is just using me for the sex. why do you think he does this?
<< He is just using me for the sex. why do you think he does this? >>
Because he's a selfish man who took vows and made a committment to his wife, yet as long as he can "get away with it" he'll do as he pleases. Nevermind who MIGHT get hurt (including you, but most certainly his wife). Why he does this is because he's a selfish person who indulges in whatever he wants. That why any person who cheats cheats. There are no good "reasons" as to why. It's just a matter of being selfish and lack of self-control.
Better question that why he does this is, why are you allowing yourself to be used just for sex? Forget the "why" of him. Focus on the 'why' of what is appealing/attractive you to about a selfish guy and this situation.
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