haven't been kissed --- yet!

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Registered: 11-18-2005
haven't been kissed --- yet!
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Fri, 11-18-2005 - 11:14am
Ok, I recently began dating a man who I have known for over a year. At least we call it dating. About a month ago we took it to the next level and went on an official date, we declared it so. The thing is that we haven't kissed yet. We are both divorced for several years now. We hold hands, hug and such, that's it. I am beginning to enjoy this getting to know each other. This slow for me. Anyway, I am perfectly fine with this. At first this was uncomfortable to me, but now I find it sensual. I feel like a teenager and he's courting me. I've never had this before. He is very caring, sensitive and attentive. Neither one of us is seeing anyone else. The problem is that even though I consider it dating and I'm okay with it, my friends (male and female) don't consider it dating, that we are just friends. Even though I was secure with this, now I am starting to question it. Need an outsiders opinion. Are we dating?
Thanks.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-18-2005 - 11:58am

terry325...

Of course you're dating! Just because the man hasn't kissed you doesn't mean there aren't any feelings, or a hidden desire to lay one on you!!! .

Here's where you're blowing it...and many women I know LOVE to do this. They draw comparisons between a previous b/f (or a spouse) to the men they're currently seeing.

SORRY LADIES...BUT IT'S A DUMB, FOOLISH HABIT!

Here's why?

Most of us who are interested in asking you out would like the opportunity to get to know you. The last thing we want is to start feeling that you're 'stacking us up with a line-up of previous suitors!' Frankly...this type of behavior usually ticks many of us off. If the EX was so terrific...you'd STILL BE WITH HIM, right???

So please cut us some slack. Let us pamper and spoil you (if that's our desire), but stop comparing our actions to those of others.

And for heaven's sake...STOP LISTENING to the advice of your (well-meaning, but ignorant) friends! They aren't going through this new relationship....YOU ARE!!!

Pianoguy