he acts like a little boy !!

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Registered: 10-26-2008
he acts like a little boy !!
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Fri, 03-27-2009 - 6:45pm
Okay so yea if you've read my recent posts , ull understand but anyhow robbie and me we ended up being jus friends and that was fine with me , until me and him starting going back to the way it used to be !! i would come over and we would talk and it jus lead to the way it was when we was together... so he picks me up for lunch and buys me things ( he never did this when we were together) and we are just friends , i havent said anything about getting back together and neither has he.. but the way he acts is totally different , ( he's the one calling now and coming at me with kisses) and giving me money and taking me to lunch... its weird how he came around like this when we would have such big blowouts over my SOns dad and him playing games!!! so jus wanted to know what u think, o and also when he does call and i jus am too busy to answer he gets mad and in generel he acts like he's my man i mean i aint arguing but its confusing so what do you think???
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Registered: 09-06-2007
Sat, 03-28-2009 - 10:46pm

If a man acts like a little boy, you will soon turn into the mother who has a tantrum-throwing toddler on her hands.

If you do not want to be someone's mother, then I suggest you steer clear of men who act like little boys.

Been there, done that.

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Registered: 01-07-2009
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 4:12pm

Here's how I see this game you two are playing. You decided to be "just friends" which makes him happy because he can call you, be affectionate with you, etc. on his terms without any expectations because he doesn't have a title to live up to. Yet you are encouraging it because you take what little you can get, which is basically going through the motions of having a boyfriend without actually having a boyfriend.

If I recall correctly, you have a child with someone that you're trying to work out a relationship with, don't you?

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Registered: 10-26-2008
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 5:47pm
yes i did actually make the descion to jus go my own way, so ive been solo with my son.. but he came back to me and started acting like he was my man again. giving me money and taking me to eat , which he wouldnt do when we were together so thats why its so confusing to me.. because he gave the title jus friends but hes acting more like my man then he did before i think hes wants to be , but is afraid of only god knows what!! i know when i give up on him, he runs back so idk what to think on that... what do you think???
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Registered: 01-07-2009
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 10:52pm
I imagine that he is happy enough with you being able to do what he wants, cuddle you, come and go as he pleases, be affectionate, and not have to live up to standards, expectations and labels. If you're looking for something that could eventually end up long-term (i.e. a potential father figure for your son) you should look elsewhere, this one is a game-player and in a way I don't blame him because from your last post you have played games with him too... But he doesn't seem to be a very mature influence and it's best that you not involve yourself with guys who could be called "immature".