he broke up with me

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Registered: 06-22-2004
he broke up with me
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Sat, 01-30-2010 - 10:08am
hi my boyfriend of 14 months just broke up with me he did it on the phone after i was just athis home earlier that day he told me he didnt have a spark anymore hwere i was concercerned and he was allreadin talking to someone he met on the computer and he wanted to date her but he didnt because he wanted to tell me first and not go behind my back. first of all i was shocked by all this and yes i know i should not have been we had not been close no sex for a long time he kept putting up walls and would not communicate well to me about anything in the mean while i kept hoping something else was bothering him and it wasnt me but sadly i was wrong and it was in the mean whileno i have not been handling this well i have been crying so much it been two days now and i just love him and i know i have to move on but not sure how to do that cause my heart is broekn in msee each other only as friends, i want that so much but im not sure if i can be just friends only because i love him so much.any pieces. he told me he wanted us to be friends and maybe hang togther and i would love that but im not sure if i can be only friend with a man i have been so close to for so long . i still want more and he knows that he also says to me he still has some feeling but for now he wants to step away from me . in the
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Registered: 08-11-2004
Sat, 01-30-2010 - 11:35am

If you don't think you can handle being friends, then you don't have to. At the least you don't have to right away. Trying to hang out would mean sooner or later that he'd bring the new girl around, and that might be very difficult for you to handle.

In the meantime, take care of yourself. Call your friends and do things with them. Keep yourself busy with activities you enjoy. That's the best way to make the time pass.

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Registered: 06-22-2004
Sat, 01-30-2010 - 11:44am
hi thanks it is good advice for me right now i know i need to heal and try not to think of him and let him do his things there and let me do mine here in the mean while thanks for your response
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Registered: 12-06-2009
Sun, 01-31-2010 - 10:22am

often -re: damn near always- when we say we want to be friends, we're being nice.

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Registered: 09-19-2005
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 5:22pm
it might be the last thing you want to do, but i suggest exercise.
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Registered: 06-22-2004
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 9:16am

we made up now i need to delte this post but i dont know how to help and thanks for all your responses

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Registered: 02-03-2010
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 9:07pm
so he tried the other chick, didn`t like her and thought he might as well call you. Did you forget he said there was no spark with you? I think you will be getting another one of those break-up calls on the phone in a few weeks.
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Registered: 06-22-2004
Sat, 02-06-2010 - 10:29pm
hw can i delte all these posts?