He came back!!!!

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He came back!!!!
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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 11:12pm

I was in a relationship with P for a couple months....and in July he let me go, saying that he wasn't really over his divorce and he wasn't treating me the way he should b/c of it. I honestly thought that if a man really wants to be with you he will be with you....after a month of going our separate ways...he told me today that he wants me back!


I've had my doubts throughout this time. I've been confused. I took a trip to Vegas, I was just a mess after we broke up. I dated someone else (a few dates). I'm not sure what he did but I really don't want to think about it. All the while he told me that he was working on getting over what he needed to, to become a better man for me. He told me that he loved me, and I was everything he could want in someone, that I was perfect in his eyes....


Fast forward to yesterday, we had the most amazing time together. I missed him and he asked to come over...today I was a little reluctant to the idea of letting him back in my life. I just felt like I'd be getting hurt all over again. But then it happened...knowing I went on a date, and I don't know if this was the deal breaker, he said he doesn't need anymore time, and I'm the only one he wants. That he's ready to put the fear behind him and make it work with me. That he loves me more than I think......


After a whole day of back and forth on the subject I decided to try this again. But I guess this time I'm a little scared of getting hurt again. What could have really changed in a month? Knowing that I was on the verge of moving on? Or is he really ready?

 

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 8:59am
You are right to have doubts and concerns. Just take it slowly - That's all you can do. Make him earn your trust before you give your heart away.
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 1:05pm

I realize there is this hope that if a guy's into you he's into you and if you're into him too, all will be well, and

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 3:39pm

I agree with the other posts. Make sure you take care of you and try to detach from the outcome. This may you can stay positive and not obsess over what he is thinking or what will happen next. I know easier said than done but it can be done! Good luck and have fun!

Stay positive!

Ruth Bailey www.gethimtolikeyou.com www.personalquestcoaching.com
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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 3:57pm

Roxanne,


I'd like to send you an email, I'm in a bit of a similar situation but cannot email you through your profile..

 

~living and learning~

"If change did not exist, a flower would be just a seed in the ground...embrace change and experience the growt

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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 4:20pm

prttyldy23@yahoo.com


I look forward to hearing from you!