He came back part 2!!

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Registered: 07-03-2003
He came back part 2!!
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 11:28pm

So I had posted before of the ex bf who decided he wanted to get back together with me....

Well I decided to let him go. And although I am a little hurt, I am very happy with the decision.


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Registered: 09-23-2009
Tue, 08-17-2010 - 8:41am

Good for you for not settling! As far as the new man goes, they are all wonderful at the beginning. If you make it past the first 4 to 6 months, that's when you will see the 3 dimensional man appear, and that will be the real test of who the man is, and how he will consistently treat you.

Many women start caring about the man because they are treated so well at the beginning. If a man starts going downhill after that, they are taken aback and hope for change, hanging on to what once was. Just remember that even if you care about someone, if he doesn't meet all of your main needs, then it's time to let him go if there is no improvement.

Sometimes men show that they will be a great lifetime partner during the first two years, and then you can feel confident that you've seen him in every type of stressful situation and they've passed with flying colors. I hope that your new man turns out to be worthy of you. Take care and have fun!

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 08-17-2010 - 9:14am
I'm really glad you made the right decision. I guess breakups are going to hurt if you have any emotional investment at all, but you got through it and seem to have learned from it. That's a valuable experience. Happy to hear that you're getting good treatment from someone new :) Regardless of age, people who treat you with kindness and respect and generosity are really important to have around you.
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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 08-17-2010 - 12:44pm
Sounds like you made a smart choice! Good for you. :)