he is dating...? what the ?$&*
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he is dating...? what the ?$&*
| Wed, 06-08-2005 - 2:42pm |
My ex and i broke up about a month ago after 4 years, we have kept in touch and occasionaly gone to eat. We told each other that we would be honest about if we were going to date someone else, so the other would be okay and totally ready to move on. Well, I am not sorry to say that I have always had access to his email, and I looked today. He has this friend that happens to be a girl and has a boyfriend in Miami. We are in georgia. He talks with her all the time. But the issue is that he told her he took some girl to dinner a couple weeks ago when he lied to me about going to a club. he also told her that he was glad that girl wasnt with him when he saw his ex girlfriend's on the next saturday night at a bar. then she wrote him back and said that there shoudl be no drama if we all know he is moving on and the we, the ex girls' are sooo stupid. he told her that his ex's are burning up because he is not with us. whatever. what does she know she is not hear to see him call ME call day long. anyway, i am realizing that i dont know him. thru the emails i have found him lying about other info. but yet he still keeps in touch with me and volunteers this info that he is lying about. I want to move on, but it is hard. Advice on how to bow out would be great!

The best advise I can give to someone is no contact, take them out of your cell phone, put away pictures stuff he bought for you, if he calls you don't answer or tell him flat out don't call no more. And within time you will be fine.
Your story is the perfect reason why ex's can not be friends after they brake up, especially so quick after the split up. Honestly and I am not trying to be mean but he doesn't have to explain his self to you because you are not his girlfriend any more and who cares if he lied to you because he is not your boyfriend anymore. Like I said I am not trying to be mean I am trying to be honest and prepare yourself for drama if you try to stay his friend, because you still have some feelings for him and he is out there in the dating field and having contact with him is going to make things alot worse.
I think if you step back and cut contact with him until you are completely healed, I mean to where you can see him out somewhere kissing another girl and it doesn't bother you one bit at all, then that is probably when you can have a friendship with him. But I think staying friends with an ex is not a good ideal unless there is a child involed.
I wish you the best of luck
-Michelle