He doesn't get it
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|Sat, 02-20-2010 - 4:12am|
I have been dating a guy for 2.5 yrs.
In those 2.5 yrs, to start, I came after his last gf, who he is cosigner on a loan for and was emotionally tied to. He finally got "over" her a year into it. Then last summer he "made contact" with a girl 13 yrs younger than him. Both while I was willing to be in his life whole heartedly.
But the major thing is his hobby/2nd job...is bowling. He bowls 2-3 nights a week leagues and every night of the week drills balls for customers on his own schedule. Most night I see him AFTER 9-10pm)..and it's for 2 hrs of watching tv before he goes home to an apt with just a bed and a dog. Every moment we have "together" is based on what he has for customers or tournaments he wishes to bowl in. These are amateur although he does have the option of bowling pro too if he wants (money keeps him from this).
There is not one single day of the week that I am told "I have to do this first, or I have to see this customer first" before I get any time with him, which is dinner and maybe a dinner and a movie. Also, I'm a single mother and it's a struggle to get him to see anything my kids are doing. (Im divorced because my ex husband of 18 years was emotionally void) I on the other hand, give up time with my friends for whatever time he has for me because I feel it's important to me.
Fed up, I asked for a break for obvious reasons. His answer was (and I quote)..."but I like hanging with you".....when I questioned that....he changed it to "but I love spending time with you".
You date a girl for 2.5 yrs and when she wants a break to re-evaluate things you say this.
He can't see what his answer told me. PLEASE.....for his sake, please spell it out. I will be showing this to him....