He is how old????

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He is how old????
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Mon, 05-09-2005 - 11:19am

Would you date someone 30 years your senior? Why or why not? Do you think there is much different in how old you are when the person is so much older? What if you were say 60 and met a guy in his 30's do you think that can work? What age gap would you consider to much?

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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 7:45am

The thing that is most ironic to me about the people who often pressure others to have children as that they often seem to be very UNHAPPY people. In particular, women who appear to not be happy having choosen to have a family and struggle to "have it all".

My sister in law is one of the worst, she cheated on my brother and got pregnant by another man, whose child my brother now cares for as his own (noble or just plain stupid -only time will tell). She found Jesus at the church my brother bagan attending after their intitial separation. Apparently, they prescribe to the everyone should have kids so we can have more followers in our cult, dogma.

The woman is one of the most selfish peopel I know (not entirely her fault - her childhood was a travesty) and honestly she's a lousy Mom. My brother does 85% of the work after he gets home form working 12 hour days. Cooking cleaning, taking care of the kids all of it. She actually found her son (1.5) in the middle of the road in front of their house one day. She was on the phone nad hadn't noticed him wondering outside.

This person actually had the nerve to try to tell me how important it was to have and nuture children and how mothering brings out the best in us. Our true selves as the Lord wants it. What a load of crap. I seriously dount the Lord thinks she's at her best letting her kids run wild while she spends all day on the phone nad turns her husband into an edentured servant.

Sorry, had to rant, I feel better now. Thanks.

If this doens't get it out of my sysytem I might have to go check out that other board. :)

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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 12:25pm

This board is ok to rant about because we so understand. I mean for those who say it is what God wants, hmm I thought he gave us all free will and with that you choose what you do. I guess I do not like people trying to force their views on me and get heated when they try to do it to others because I see to many people who have kids and would have been better off without them. hence a cousin I am taking care of now. His mom should have opted not to because as long as I've known she has never stepped up to the mom role. She just had him but everyone else has cared for him. I mean it is good for some that love and only want them but it is good for those who know and choose not to.


I would get more into but I am just swampped. Sorry Steff I haven't been around. We will begin traveling actually just had two teams go out and they are leaving again next week with only being back a week so we are very short staffed along with problems around here.

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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 12:37pm

I hear ya nick, all I can say is this though....


your brother has a choice. he CHOOSES to stay with her, be her endentured servent, and allow his son to be in danger while with the mom. If he was an over the top dad that he seems he is, he should take the kid away from her, and get custody.


My co-worker has 4 kids, and he has full custody of them ALL, cuz the two mom's are horrible mom's.


As with spandex.....just cuz you can wear them (have kids), doesn't mean you should.


~pineapple_girl

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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 12:41pm

Oh, now there's a vent I can back you on.

Steffy
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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 1:17pm

"As with spandex.....just cuz you can wear them (have kids), doesn't mean you should. "

Oh wow, that is sooooo funny. Thank you I needed that!!!

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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 1:24pm

"Just isn't fair that she did that to your brother... on a LOT of different levels!!"

Yeah, but Pineapple is right, it's his choice and his problem. It's a little painful to watch, but that's really all I can do. Hopefully, she'll change, at least since the sepaaration she appears to be trying.

Not trying very successfully, but trying. It's more then she was doing before. I just wish she'd stop giving me advice on how to live my life God's way, just because she's gotten all holy all the sudden. As if she has a clue what it takes to be a good person and live a life you can be proud of.

Apparently, she just figured out two years ago that screwing someone other then your spouse is NOT okay.

Why is it that the people who want children so often seem to be the people least able to be good parents?

I mean of my friends the ONLY ones who want kids are the two that are in therapy for personality disorders. Oh yeah, now there's a pair of IDEAL parents.

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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 1:44pm

"I mean of my friends the ONLY ones who want kids are the two that are in therapy for personality disorders. Oh yeah, now there's a pair of IDEAL parents."


~pineapple_girl

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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 3:00pm
LOL ~ I'd say that I would never get tired of ADD boy and stutter boy stories too!!!

Steffy
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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 3:32pm
Sounds like the fifth ring of hell.

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