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|Wed, 07-01-2009 - 10:42pm|
I'm seeing a guy for a few months. We have a nice relationship with lots of conversation and affection. He's a good bf because he's very intuitive. The problem is, he seems well trained, rather than sincere. He knows when I need to be called, knows how to hold me, and on the surface will do things that are expected. Its like he doesn't want to blow it and have another failed relationship.
BUT, he may not be over the ex. He still brings her up in conversation. It was a long relationship-seven years long. It ended a year ago. I've been there too, and it took a long time to get used to being single again. He does care about me, but seems limited by the flame he still carries for her. She cheated on him and left him. He seems to have developed an inferiority complex and works hard to show he's moved on. This is of course, my opinion.
I love the relationship. We have good conversations and good sex, but I can't help but be insecure about his ex. She seems to be over him, but because she broke his heart, he's still having to deal with the pain. It causes him to mention her often. One annoying one recently was after having sex and what she used to do to him. I was not amused and told him.
Should I stick around and wait and see if my relationship will get stronger? I can tell him to stop talking about her, but it wont stop the feelings he has. I want him to work thru it and get over her. Should I even dare bring the issue up with him? Not really sure how to work pass this or leave.