Is he into me or not??

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Registered: 11-23-2005
Is he into me or not??
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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 9:09am
Ok theres a guy that I have had a crush on for a year and a half now. We're both 23 and I go into the place he works for lunch everyday, we would always get eye contact and he would joke with my friend saying she was always mean to him but I was always so nice. About a year ago I was told by his best friend that he liked me too. I was too shy to ever hit on him though so my friend used to talk to him for me (childish I know, but she thought she was helping) and he used to tell her that he couldn't talk to me and for me to come and talk to him. So I took this to mean that he wasn't interested and didn't do anything.
Then a couple of months passed and we were both out and quite drunk one night. He was flirting with me all night and I ended up going back to his place and we slept together. It was my first time which I know may have freaked him out a little. We swopped numbers but I didn't hear anything from him, so three days after I sent him a msg telling him to forget it ever happened, it was a mistake.
After that he was so nice to me, he always made sure to come up and say hi and say my name. Then a couple of months later he got together with one of his work mates, he went out with her for a few months but now they're broken up and the whole eye contact and flirting has started again.
So my questions are, did he just use me? would he have contacted me after if he was really interested? or did I put him off my sending him that msg? should I try and talk to him about it?
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 11-23-2005 - 9:47am
I am thinking the whole, this is my first time freaked him out. Many people feel that this is something people hold for someone special not a drunken night and oh it happened. So he may have figured "what am I to do now". That is some pressure on some people and they either run or feel obligated to stick around with someone because of it. Just take it as this if he is interested he will say if you think not then give him a flat out hint and say "if your interested you know where to find me". and leave it at that and look back no more.

Marie

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Wed, 11-23-2005 - 11:11am
It sounds me that he is interested. I know that you said you are shy. But you need to suck it up and just tell him how you feel. and like Marie said "you'll know where to find me." The way I look it at, you can spend your life wondering "what if" but that's a waste of time. Even if nothing ever becomes of it just remeber that now you will know. And then you can go on from there.
Good luck!
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Registered: 11-23-2005
Wed, 11-23-2005 - 8:28pm
Well, I think you should build up some courage and go ask him out for coffee or something. Just keep it light simple, no strings. As a guy, I think its great when a gal asks me out. Shows interest. If he says "no" then you have your answer and even a "no" will feel better than not knowing I'm guessing. If you two go out, just take things a little slow so that you don't end up in a friends with benefits situation unless that's what you really want.