Is he serious???

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2008
Is he serious???
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Thu, 08-06-2009 - 9:59am
Hello everybody i think this is my third time here. Just had this guy of which we have been together for a year now and i don't undertand him, it's funny that we have been for a year and yet i don't know if he is serious in this relationship or not. Since we have been together he has never told me he loves me to my face he can write
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: solenita
Thu, 08-06-2009 - 10:41am

There seems to be no "real" communication going on here.


Have YOU told him "I love you" to his face? Do you not understand him as an individual, or just with regard to whether or not he's serious? Have you ever talked about what you want to do with your lives?

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Registered: 03-09-2006
In reply to: solenita
Thu, 08-06-2009 - 10:45am

It's a lot easier to write something than to say it. It takes almost zero effort and exactly zero feeling and truth to write something. Does that mean his feelings of it being true are zero? Not necessarily. But after a year together, you shouldn't still be confused and not know. With out coming out and saying it, you can't get a tone. You can't tell if he's saying "I love you angel" as in he is IN LOVE with you, or if he is tossing it around casually like "I love you man". People say they "love" everything from people to bologna sandwiches. But when a man is IN LOVE, he says so.


What does he say when you say out loud

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2009
In reply to: solenita
Thu, 08-06-2009 - 12:44pm
You may have to look at his actions instead of hear his words for now. I have the hardest hardest time saying I love you. It's like pulling teeth. Granted, I probably would say it at least after a year of being with someone but I wouldn't know cause I've never been with anyone long enough to say I love you. It's just hard for some people. But you really do need to ask him about it and talk it out. Hopefully he'll just tell you what's up with him not ever saying it in person.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2008
In reply to: solenita
Thu, 08-06-2009 - 5:48pm

Thank you all, i have said it and the day i said it "i love you" he kissed me deeply yet didn't say anything, sometimes i don't understand, all he says is (jai envie de toi) which is"i want you".

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2009
In reply to: solenita
Fri, 08-07-2009 - 2:25pm

Some people (not just men but women too) have trouble saying things out loud.